I know I'm being paranoid but.....

[babyinarms]

my Dh works away from home alot. He is away 5 days at a time and home for 3 days.
He works and lives in close quaters with his workmates when he is away, this is due to the nature of his job.
His work colleagues are both female and male, that doesnt bother me cos he is very loving, involved with family life when he is home, so I really can't fault him.
The problem is with me...when he is away i feel very threatened. I keep thinking because he spends more time with work colleagues he has more in common with them now than he does with me.
All i have to talk about these days are babie, nappies , weaning and I'm sure he will get so fed up with it.
We went to a wedding recently of one of his work mates, he was having such a laugh with them and really enjoying their company. I felt so left out and so uninteresting.We used to laugh so much before.
I need someone to tell me get a grip and be grateful I have such a good man. Cant talk to real friend as they will think i'm mad!!

Well you're definitely not mad to feel like this, no wonder when you are giving your all to your family.

Don't forget, your dh will feel the need to be fun and the life and soul with his workmates. The great thing about being at home with his family is that he doesn't have to 'be' anything but himself. Do you tell him how you feel?

You know you have a good man, you need to believe you are a good woman!

As my old ma used to say, "hold your head up high and put a smile in your heart."

It's tough when you begin to feel like that - it won't last though.

Tell him how you feel, honestly and openly (without being needy etc), always be cheerful about it and try and find some interests of your own that don't involve the children (if that's possible) so that you've got something else to talk about, or make a point of reading the papers every day, keeps you in the real world!

Great thanks. I was a having a poor me day, feel better now, nice to be able to vent somewhere and not be judged!
Good idea about reading newspapers and keeping up to date, will give me something else to talk about.
Must try to find hobby too, as i think it is a bit of an identity crises im going through as recently deciced to be sahm!
Dont get me wrong, i love DCs and know this is best for us all but just feeeling a little lost!
Will try to bring up with DH but dont want to hurt him or sound like im nagging or moany!

Have a look at evening courses, my life improved no end when I did that. Don't underestimate how drastic a change you have made to your lifestyle (albeit your decision and one which I made as well), you will benefit by counteracting your enforced domesticity with something just for you

Good luck!

DH and I used to do the working away all week thing.

We used to go out for dinner every Saturday without the kids and had a rule not to talk about them.

I found it really hard at first, but it was actually a really good idea, we'd talk about music, food, current events, gossip about friends etc and it helped to connect again as a couple, not just parents.

Thanks a mill, will need to re-evaluate things a bit alright...evening class might be a winner, maybe wine tasting...emmmm!
Then mumble, maybe I could try some of them on DH