Hope it’s not another crush

[Creamdaffodils]

I met this guy through work a week ago and he started chatting with me for a couple of times during his breaks. Not more than 10 -15 min at a time. We discovered he had done my job for years so had a bit of common ground for talking. The nature of my job is that I get to see a lot of people but I do not instigate conversations, unless they do. He told me he was going to work at my location this week(we were in a different location when we met). Thought nothing more of it until he showed up on Monday. So for 2 days he came roughly half an hour early, nothing unusual in my line of work, and he was talking to me and kept asking questions.Even when he leaves he says goodby a couple of times despite me acknowledging it first time round. He is quite good looking and pleasant , not getting a weirdo vibe and have found myself thinking about him quite a lot. He has 2 days left and then this will be the end of it. I don’t like mixing work and pleasure, even though he is working through an agency atm, just can’t believe he has occupied my thoughts for the last couple of days.

I know it’s normal to develop a little crush or like people at work sometimes, all innocent as long as you don’t act on it, I just hope I won’t start thinking for too long about him especially that I won’t get to see him again after a couple of days.

Any words of wisdom?

What's stopping you from asking him out? Are you already in a relationship?

Yes, what is stopping you? Sounds like a connection to me.

Do you want more to come of it or is his usual place of work too far away? I never believed in mixing work and pleasure but then someone new joined a few years ago and I’d have definitely dated him. He almost asked me then covid happened. Thankfully 2.5yrs on he showed up on our floor one day again ahead of a meeting, we had a hug, and he asked me out a few hours later! Been dating 3 months now and he’s the best. Luckily he changed jobs, so although I do see him at work we don’t work together as such directly anymore. That would have made it a little awkward!

Ask him out!

I met my partner at work but we were friends for a while before we moved the relationship on - I don’t think you should rule things out based on meeting at work! Especially as the OP is saying the guy might not be around at work moving forward.

Yes, I am in a relationship. I have been for a very long time. Had ups and downs like everyone but we stick it out. I had a serious crush a few years back that seriously impacted
my life, made me rethink everything.I tried really hard to understand why it happened, especially when things were getting back on track in my life. Now I am just getting another one of my biggest dreams happening and bam, this!
So day 3 has gone, one more to go. I can’t wait so I can go back to my normal life. Despite everything we’ve been through, I still think that no one I met over the years compares to my DP.
As for the work guy, even if things were different with me, I suppose he would have made a comment to about his relationship status by now. He seems a bit secretive as well, which is strange, as he’s very chatty but doesn’t fully disclose stuff.

That sounds pretty complicated and in your situation I'd probably try to distance myself from the guy at work as much as possible because it's dangerous territory. Try to do something you like doing with your partner to take your mind off it all - it might be that you're feeling a bit of distance with your partner so you're trying to fill that romantic space up with this new crush. Sorry if I'm over stepping!

Very chatty but doesn't disclose stuff? What could possibly go wrong???

You've only known him a week, then he'll move on, then two weeks later you won't be thinking about him (or the DW/GF he's conspicuously not telling you about).

Also, it sounds like you're a personality type to develop crushes, so just be aware of that in future.

@mochimoons I’m actually glad I spoke to him a bit more as it’s helped wear the mystery off.So it won’t give my brain a chance to fill in the gaps and create an image that doesn’t exist.
@ZaphodDent thanks for saying out loud what I was thinking too re a possible DW/DG. I’m also hoping this will be a thing of the past in a few days, weeks. It’s only annoying as I need my brain to focus on more important things going on in my life right now.
it’s funny to compare 2 situations, I asked another agency staff something as wanted to get some info for another member of our permanent staff. And the guy very quickly dropped the wife and kids into the conversation.