Talk to me about flying monkeys

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Just that.

I could hardly believe from opinions on here that he was so awful but he has given
Up trying to win me back and has turned nasty after his sister text me to ask for a chat?

I met his sister on several occasions but there would be no reason to ring me for a chat . Very polite conversations at best .

She has been going through a tough time but surely she'd talk to friends or family before she'd ring me ?

Anyway I text to say sorry she was having a tough time and wished her well.
He then contacted me with nasty abusive insults saying I was an awful Person and that I should be ashamed of myself for treating g his sister so badly as to not having rang her when she needed a chat.

It was completely inappropriate for me to ring her. We've never had that relationship.
He told me he read the messages also.
Is this a flying monkey situation and what do I do?
He turned from begging to hating real fast and the verbal abuse was horrendous .

Not only is he abusive, he's also not very bright, or he'd realise that you'd not want to confide in his sister to who you aren't that close and who has probably been asked to find out how you are doing and report back - He told me he read the messages also

You did exactly the right thing - sent back a civil message declining and wishing her well.

He then contacted me with nasty abusive insults saying I was an awful Person and that I should be ashamed of myself for treating g his sister so badly as to not having rang her when she needed a chat

You've taken control and you're not dancing to his tune or doing what he wants so he's trying to guilt trip you and make you feel as if you are in the wrong. Please try not to rise to it and sink to his level (if that makes sense).

I bet if you phoned the sister, he would have answered. Maybe she texted on his behalf, or maybe he 'borrowed' her phone. Block her and him and don't engage. You've dodged a bullet.

Oh, and you don't have to talk to anyone you don't want to talk to, whatever he thinks or says.

I also think that it as him and not his sister who texted. It makes noo sense that she'd contact her brothers ex girlfriend who she'd met a handful of times for support. And, tbh, if she did, then the whole family is something you're best away from!!

My daughter had some trouble with a girl at school and her 'brother' messaged her telling her how disappointed he was with how she was treating his sister and she ought to he ashamed of herself.

The difference was that my daughter and this girl were 13 at the time. The brother was 10 so the message definitely wasn't from him! 🤣

When grown men adopt the strategies of 13 year olds...

God the Messages to me afterwards were
Nasty. He said some terrible things that I had told him hurt me the most .
This was having told me
How he couldn't live without me because he loved me so much a few days ago.
I'm really upset by this.

He said some terrible things that I had told him hurt me the most

In future don't tell him this - that's just handing him the information to hurt you again. I know it's difficult - you want to defend yourself and make him see what he's doing, but it sounds like he doesn't care about that, or your feelings, at all.

The relationship is over. I will not be seeing him again.

Hard to know if she is a flying monkey or not. Maybe he suggested you as a shoulder to cry on. In which case she could unwittingly be a flying monkey.

But the point is he tried to use her against you afterwards. Trying to make you out to be unempathetic.

Reply 'I barely know your sister. Stop contacting me you absolute lunatic'. Screenshot it so you have proof you've told hi to leave you alone (if ever needed for the police). Then as soon as he has read it, block him on everything. Don't wait for the reply.

Keep him blocked. If he finds any further way to continue to harass you, go to the police.