Those that are NC with family

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how did your children find it and how did you explain it to them? I went NC with a family member 2 and a half years ago and till that point we were quite close, dd has never mentioned anything about them until today she kept repeatedly asking to go to her house, I explained that it’s not possible but she was very adamant, this is the first time she’s said this so don’t know where it’s come from. I am not considering contacting my relative and that’s totally out of the question but just wondering how others children coped with this? Did they eventually forget about them? How did you explain NC?

My littlest one was only 2 when we went NC so has absolutely no memory of them. But my older dc does. Tbh, COVID helped initially to explain away why we weren’t seeing each other. Eventually she did start asking questions (she was probably about 8 then) and I explained it the best way I could. I said this family member was upset with daddy and I about something (partner is a convicted child sexual offender, we refused to allow contact if she was with him). And because she was upset with us and being unkind, we made the decision not to see her until she started being kind again. Dd asked about it a couple times but hasn’t really ever mentioned it much again these past few years. She has lots of lovely people in her life though so I hope she feels very surrounded with love.

Thank you, that’s helpful, I have very little family which makes it difficult.