So, I have been with my OH for approx 2 years and he doesn’t earn as much money as me (that itself is not an issue) however, I end up paying for everything when we’re together. We go for dinner, I pay. Day trips, I pay. Short breaks, I pay. Even if he drops/ collects me from a girls night, I pay his fuel. Well more than actually. He is always asking to ‘lend’ or ‘borrow’ money. Now, I’m technically a single parent to 2, as me & him do not live together. My children’s dad does not contribute financially and has no role in their life (his choice) so I’m supporting my children single handedly. Previously, I always said ‘no’ or ‘I don’t have it’ when he’d ask to ‘borrow’ money but recently, I’ve come into a bit of money & I’ve felt bad saying no and knowing he is struggling. But my issue is - he struggles because he doesn’t prioritise his money. He will buy trainers, clothes etc, has financed an expensive car that consumes fuel and yet he’s struggling to buy essentials. When we eat out he feels no way about ordering whatever he wants off the menu, knowing he isn’t paying and doesn’t ever think about the financial cost to me. We might just go for coffee & I pay. If I support him to any appointments I pay for car parking etc. It’s been that long since he’s paid for anything, it’s really starting to bother me. More so because he has money to do what he wants & also, because I think he feels no way about me paying for things despite the fact I have 2 children, a mortgage & a home to run whilst he lives at home with his parents paying less than £100 a week all in. The fact he earns less is not my issue, it’s the expectation that I pay for things with him giving no regard to the potential impact of this upon me or my children. Im not sure if I’m over reacting or if he’s absolutely taking me for a ride.