School friend problems

[ESPjane]

Hi All

how do I deal with this situation, my daughter became friends with a girl in her class and I became friends with her mum, all was good but there has been a few issues with friends falling out, and I feel every time she gets funny with me…..
well today is my daughters birthday and on the weekend I had a party for her, the friend was invited and so was friend (mum), today i woke up with a text saying can you not knock for me, we want to walk to school alone…. that’s okayinthought, but I felt the mum (friend)was really off with me so I text saying “you okay” you seem quite and apparently my daughter said something to her daughter at the party (I have no idea what was said she didn’t say) they are 8, I feel she shouldn’t have addressed this on my daughters birthday and now not sure if this friendship can survive really…. Just don’t want it to be weird at the school gate…..

just feel really upset and can’t be asked to have school mum friends…
would you be upset or am I being silly….😔

I would just make it clear that you are not getting involved in your children’s friendship because they are 8 yrs old. You will continue to tell your child to be kind to her friends but there will always be things said and done which will upset and annoy each of them.

i have had this is the past with a mum friend, and her daughters version of events was always different to my daughter EXAMPLE:- C (my child) is leaving D (friend) out at playtime, they aren’t letting her play. I would say ‘ok I’ll speak to C’ C would say we do ask her to play but she won’t play the game we want to play and wants us to play her game, we say later we will but she just walks off. So basically just playground stuff but my friend was always putting her adult perspective on it.

im the end I had to say I cannot get involved, I can always ask C to be kind and play with D but I can’t make her.