Do you have a SIL who just doesn't really give you the time of day?

[janie83]

DH's sister, known her as long as DH and I have been together - 12 years.
She's just never really tried to get to know me. She's older than DH and I by 2 years.
We have a fair amount in common, 2 kids each, one boy one girl, we bought our homes around the same time, we're both into fitness, like a glass of wine etc, but I just find that every time I see her she's off, standoffish and unwilling to show interest in us. She only really wants to discuss what she's up to etc.
I think she's a nice person and I admire her, she works hard in her job. I just feel like she doesn't have any time for me and I feel like the boat has sailed now after 12 years that I should just accept the way it is.

Anyone else have this?

I think that’s quite normal. I’ve been with DH for 25 years, and SIL have probably only met a good handful of times. We have DC of similar ages too.

Does it matter?

My brother has been with his wife for 20 years, married 12. We have no interest in each other. We don't dislike each other and get on well enough on the 2-3 times a year we see each other and we trust each other to look after each other's children.

I don't expect to be friends with her because we both have children, live in a house, drink alcohol and are both related to my brother though...

What do you want from/with her?

@GreyCarpet haha because we live in a house..😂 I was referring to moving at the same time - if you've not done it recently it's pretty all-consuming and stressful!

I guess in the grand scheme of life it's not a big deal, but it feels like it matters to me which is why I wanted to hear other peoples situations.