His mother contacted me !!!!!!

[easypeeled]

I broke up with my 50 year old partner recently.
I've posted about him before.
Regardless whether he was narcissistic or not, he was a selfish man who sloped off when I needed care and kindness. We did not live together.
He knew it all, talked at me, gave me parenting books as children should be seen and not heard of
Curse and was generally a shot father to his own kids and probably more interested in what I could bring to the table than what he could.
So I got rid of him.
He is tormenting me.
Flowers, emails, letters etc etc.
His last email ( he is now blocked) was all about how he is struggling and in a bad place.
This is largely because he has lost his murder with a purse and os still at home with his folks , on long term sick relish out a miserable life and basically lying in bed all day long.
Dr doesn't think he has depression but believes he's lost his mojo.
So ... his mother has contacted me telling me that she's sad we are over and hopes to see me again. That's she needed a chat as she is sad and that's she's worried about my ex partner, that he's not doing well at all. I've met her three times in total.
Part of me os worried. Part of me feels that this is manipulative .
Thoughts?

Ignore. Block and run. Explains why he is how he is.

You're well rid, well done on refusing to let him move in.

It’s completely inappropriate for her to
contact you and try to get involved.

Yes block her too. Well done for getting rid of a loser.

Pathetic isn't he,
A dead loss
No wonder you were relieved to get rid of him

Op

Way to go upwards 👏 will immediately start to get better

Is his name Steve?! His mum did the same to me as a teenager, cornered me on the bus to tell me how sad he was and to give him another chance!! He'd be in his 50s now..
It backfired because it made me run in the opposite direction and you should do the same and you won't look back, I promise.

I would send a message back stating that the best thing she could do for her son is let him grow up. He is never going to have adult relationships with a manipulative mummy attempting to try and pass her own problem off to someone else. She broke him - she can fix him. The way to do this is to kick him out and start adulting all on his own. THEN block.

Thats just embarrassing. 😅 Block them both. A lucky escape.

My mum is in her 80s and the worst stories she hears from her friends are those whose kids have moved back in with them after divorce. It’s ALWAYS sons, never daughters. Men in their 50s and 60s expecting elderly mothers to cook and do their washing. Gosh I wonder why their marriages failed!?

I think you’ve dodged a bullet OP. I’d be blocking him and his mother.

This

Well done for making the break. I hope you find someone lovely 🙂

They both need therapy with a professional. That's not you. Block them both

Give her the parenting books back as a farewell gift and say you need these more than me.

This thread is from February, hopefully he has stopped harassing the OP by now!