First off I want to start by saying my husband of 4 years is a good man. He has always loved me and is a good father. Unfortunately for the past 2 years he is unable to have sexual intercourse due to long term untreated diabetes. This issue has taken its toll on me as a 29 year old woman in a sexless marriage. We have became best friends and thats how I view our relationship. He told me to please find myself another man on the side to fulfill my sexual desires since he can no longer. Well I did I've been seeing someone now for a while and feelings have developed. We have fallen in love with each other and desire to be together. My husband says I have to choose either him or my lover. I think I'm going to leave my husband. I need neutral opinions and advice because I really don't have any friends. There is more to the story that complicates things this other man is 20 years my senior, he is a long time family friend. I am currently pregnant and there's a small possibility that it could be my lovers child but my husband wants to assume it's his even knowing that. My husband and I did an insemination to attempt to get pregnant and at the same time I was sleeping with my lover but with protection. This was during the time I thought our marriage was ok before the ultimatum my husband gave me to choose. Help me!