Going through miscarriage single

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I'm posting this here as I put it in miscarriage and had no replies and don't know where else to put it. I found out a couple days ago at my 12 week scan baby stopped growing at 10+2. Had seen a heartbeat at 7 and 8 weeks so was a huge shock. This is my first pregnancy, I got pregnant and my boyfriend broke up with me and we've since just focussed on being coparents.

I'm now not only grieving for this baby but also the future. Although my ex didn't treat me well when we were together he would have been a good dad, and I loved his family who were totally behind me and supportive. I was so ready for this and am heartbroken, I want to have a baby but now because of a low egg reserve I will have to try again on my own with donor sperm as I don't have time to wait. It's so much to process and I feel overwhelmed, devastated and scared. Has anyone been through anything similar or have any advice on how to get through this?

So sorry OP, I don't have any advice or experience to share but just wanted to send you my well wishes. Things will be ok xx

Thank you xx

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Sending hugs

I'm so sorry, I had a miscarriage and remember the utter loss and grief I felt. I wasn't single, but my then DH didn't really understand how devastated I was. Give yourself time for your body to recover, and your emotions and then decide what to do going to forward.

Had 3 myself although almost certainly none had a heartbeat - they were earlier at 7-8 weeks. I am married but I still think I dealt with it more or less on my own. Not my first pregnancy and DH focused on looking after DS1 and I got through each mc .
I’m so very sorry. I had poor ovarian reserve but got there in the end with DS2. My consultant told me it was well worth keeping trying if my mental health could cope with potentially more mcs, which I knew it could. Number 3 mc was the easiest to deal with actually. He said I had a chance of producing a good egg but no guarantees.

I’m really sorry
this is a really tough thing to handle
alone or in a relationship

treat this as the major big deal it is
tell friends and tell family please , be that needy person right now x

don’t think abiut the future just yet , focus on self care (immense self care ) as you process

life throws us horrible shitty things to handle doesn’t it xxx

Thank you all. It's so much to process. I've just had the d&c done this morning, at least now I can start the healing process