Are we in a state of crisis with relationships?

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Have dating and relationships always been this hard, or have things become worse with technology/apps/ the illusion of so much ‘choice’?

I look around at lots of people who left relationships or a relationship ended and for the most part they didn’t meet anyone & ended up on their own.

I could be seeing the negative (I do this..) but it just feels like, for a lot of people, it is just so hard to meet anyone.

Well unless by 'ended up alone' you mean they died still single, I think it might be an unfair view.

Relationships are largely, temporary.
Some people also decide they prefer being on their own too. But it's not over until its over.

You could ve married at 35, divorced by 45, single till 60 and then married again. Most people are going to be single/divirced/widowed several times during their adult life. Which, is very long, all going well.

Yes, that’s a valid point @Pinkbonbon.

I was single for 11yrs or maybe a little more after I split from the father of my DC. Largely through choice, but then I wasn’t ever going to meet anyone unless it was at work as I didn’t go out drinking anymore due to a health issue and although I’m quite social, it’s always meals or going to the theatre with my female friends. I always said if someone happened naturally I wouldn’t be opposed to it, but was perfectly happy being single. A friend at work told me all about her online dating experiences during a trip to another city in November and I was definitely debating it in my head, as I had got to the stage where I thought it might be nice to have someone for me, now my kids are older. Then 2 days later I saw an ex colleague who I’d always had a bit of a spark with but he had changed jobs during lockdown. He asked me if I fancied a drink and we have been seeing each other since, 3 months now. It’s going great and I can definitely see it being a long term thing. So never say never, and if I wanted a relationship I’m sure I could have found one via OLD, which certainly makes it easier to meet someone when your options are limited the ‘organic’ way