He sent me intimate pics with new woman

[WoosMama13]

My ex (abusive, narcissist) has been trying to win me back the last few months. I have been point blank refusing and ignoring/blocking with every attempt. Along with the usual, he was saying he is desperate for us to sleep together again for a final time and because he's not had any since our last time in October.
Then, he turned angry again a few days ago and sent me a few pictures with vulgar captions. Close ups of various sexual acts on him with two women he has met recently and their names. I have let the one he is seeing know he did that and to be careful of him. She hasn't read it. He has likely bad mouthed me and she's ignoring, believing him. The police need to know though surely? Is it a sex crime? He deleted almost as soon as I read them, so I have no visual evidence, just a screenshot showing that he had deleted messages.
I am seething at his lies (although shouldn't expect different of him) and worried for these women and anyone else he meets on dating sites.
What else can I do? I want him out of my head and life (counselling being arranged), but I feel compelled to stop him being able to do what he did to me (and showing off pictures like this of his conquests) to anyone else.

I would just stay out of it and move on, if you can that is.

Block him everywhere

He is sharing intimate images of other women, most likely without consent. Contact the police.

Why do you still have contact? If you don't have children together, block him everywhere.

I would speak with the police if he continues to harass you. I think he may be breaking the law sending you those sort of pictures unsolicited, so it may be worth speaking to them, but not sure it would go anywhere.

But the best way to get him out of your head and life is to deny him access in any and every way you can.

You've said you've blocked all communication with him so how can he be sending them?
Surely just keep doing the same, totally blank no response is the best in this situation.
If you reply he will know that it takes XYZ before you do, so he'll just keep at it in the future.

No point going to the police with nothing other than a screengrab of a deleted message.

You've said you've blocked all communication with him so how can he be sending them?
Using different accounts/numbers, maybe?

It might be worth changing your number and locking down your social media accounts as much as possible. If he continues getting around your blocks, it must be getting into harassment territory. I think it might be worth making a complaint against him.

He sounds unhinged. Desperately trying to get a reaction from you sending those pictures.

Block him properly on everything. However he sent those pictures make sure you now block not just archive.

Don’t try and get in touch with those women again. You don’t know how he will react if they tell him you have done this.

Possibly worth logging with the police. Keep all evidence of any attempts to contact you. Some years ago I was harassed by a man (we’d been friends only) and in the end I spoke with the police. They gave good advice. I sent one last message (they helped with wording it) to him telling him to never contact me again and if he did I would report to the police. He did post one letter through the door after that saying he would leave me alone if I didn’t reply but that was that. Not saying this is what you should do but the police can give good advice.

If you bump into this man anywhere grey rock is the best way forward. Make your interactions so boring and emotionless that he gets nothing from it.

Well done for getting away from him. Hopefully he will get bored and move on.
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Honestly just block him, the woman might have agreed to send it to you, trust me there are women that would agree, just move on with your life and actually block him this time not just pretend blocking I wouldn’t go to the police

The fact she’s ignored you speaks volumes

He can't harass you if you block him on everything. Well, unless he shows up at your house but if he does that then just don't answer the door. And call the police if he wont leave.

Did these women look like they knew they were being filmed?

He wants your reaction. Every time you react he gets a kick out of it. Block him on everything. Change your number if that’s what it takes.

Thank you all. It's been proper blocking, my socials are fully private and require requests to message, etc. Blacklisted his phone number with my mobile provider, etc too. He's been making new accounts to do all this, as well as using one of the many I'm learning that he already had before we met to contact other exes in a similar way. Again reported this when I reported his physical and sexual abuse, but unless he shows up in person, police won't act.
Not sure if they gave consent to share. I doubt it. He's his own boss, doesn't understand "no" on any level. But they knew he took the pictures as their faces were in them, etc.
Will continue blocking and wait to hear back if at all from my latest report about him. I fear for whoever he hurts next.

Does he have to have contact with you for children? If not and he continues to contact you screenshot everything and take to the police. It does constitute harassment, even stalking ( doesn’t have to be in person to be stalking, bombardments of messages count) On no account meet him even to try and reason with him, could turn nasty.

On an android phone drag 3 fingers down from the top of the screen to grab a screenshot. You should report him to the police for sending explicit images.

If he sends anymore get a quick screenshot of the message. Without that little point reporting him to the police as little they can do with zero evidence

You might be able to get a solicitor to send a cease & desist letter if you afford it/think that would work? Might shake him up a bit.

Are you keeping a diary of incidents?

Even if the police haven't done anything so far, keep reporting.

This guy is absolutely nuts.

Keeping a log and evidence where I can. He's quick at deleting things to hide his actions. I also started seeking legal advice to stop him as it is complete head(beep). Luckily no children with him or any other links. I'm doing what I can to keep me safe. Starting counselling soon too for it all. Never thought I'd let a man get to me like that. It's embarrassing, but it's done, I'm moving on as much as I can. Wow that was woe me, but I'm acting to change and stop things.
It's these new women I'm concerned for, has he broken the law and can the police get the evidence from his device as being sent to me, likely without their knowledge that he used them in such a way?

No point going to the police with nothing other than a screengrab of a deleted message

Not necessarily true. My DD was in a situation when she was younger where I suspected she was being groomed by a grown man posing as a young boy. The police have special equipment/ programs they use which can bring back deleted messages/ pictures. They used it to recover things both sent and received from DD's phone.

I also think you should contact the police. If anything, logging everything he does helps to show a picture of ongoing harassment which may be useful down the line.

He sounds deranged, hopefully he eventually gets bored or moves on when he never gets any type of reaction from you

If you can describe those pictures (the women, clothing ect) to the police and they check his phone then it'll be pretty obvious you're telling the truth. Especially considering it looks like he already has form for abuse.

I think considering there's stuff on file about him already, it couldn't harm you to 'update' the police on the recent developments. Even if they can't do anything, at least they'll have it on record should one of those women accuse him of revenge porn or anything.