Ex, kids and his new gfs

[sadmum2023]

I know I can't control this or do anything but I just need somewhere to moan as it makes me upset.

Every few months my kids come home from their Dads mentioning a new woman's name as "Daddy's friend". It will be so and so Daddy's friend from work, or the gym etc. He never had any female friends when we were together so it's new people.

Obviously it's none of my business who he's with and what he's doing (I left him) but the amount of different names I hear from my children, that seem to hang around for a few months then never mentioned again and it's a new "Daddy's friend" I find really upsetting.

The latest "friend" whom I've never heard mentioned before this week has taken my daughter to her horse riding lesson on her own yesterday.

I try not to make a big deal but I managed to nicely get out of my little daughter that she has met this friend "two times" before this.

It just makes me uncomfortable how many different people seem to be coming in and out of their lives and that my ex is letting people that they don't really know and that don't know them take them out alone after a couple of meetings. Exact same has happened with the past women as well.

I've had a couple of relationships since we split up 4 years ago, and only introduced one person. I feel like I try and do the right thing by the kids, and this is all out of my control...

I wouldn't feel this way at all if it appeared he had a stable relationship and was taking a normal amount of time introducing, letting lone outings happen.

Just needed to vent.

But to play devil's advocate, he seems to be introducing them tactfully, if they're "friends" and not being presented as stepmothers. It doesn't sound as if the children expect each new friend to be a permanent fixture or a mother figure. Plenty of people do introduce their children to colleagues or acquaintances - not everyone a child meets has to be a forever friend.

Yes I suppose it could be worse.

Thing is my DD is only 6, she told me "Daddy's friend" took her horse riding but didn't know her name. My eldest who is 12 then piped up up and said.

It just doesn't sit well with me that he thinks it's okay to have different women getting involved in the kids lives every few months.

The introducing people as a "friend" and doing stuff together wouldn't bother me so much though of course naturally I'd like him to wait a bit longer- I think what's getting to me is the fact that these women are spending time alone with my kids and taking them out without Dad after a matter of weeks.