NC obvious reasons
Sister has had MH difficulties in the past and since this is very controlling and needs things to go her way otherwise she feels very upset.
It has been particularly bad since last year when I couldn’t make one of her wedding dress fitting appointments due to being on the rota to work. She told me I needed to ‘step up’, that I had neglected her and then later that day let me know she was considering demoting me as a bridesmaid. I apologised and told her I’d make the next one but later discovered she had blocked my number and all accounts across all social media.
I attended the wedding and did lots on the day itself but she feels neglected that I didn’t do more prep with her and her friends. She has never forgiven me for this and has been extremely hostile and passive aggressive on occasions we have seen one another, like as at Christmas and such. Very much subtle bullying. I can’t understand it and have tried asking her why but it gets a massive reaction and she will turn it all round on me.
Fast forward to now. I text her every so often to check she is well, just trivial things like taking an interest in her work or how her week has gone. She has taken to refusing to text me back because she won’t accept ‘a virtual relationship’. She will only voice note when private messaging and says this is a compromise. She is not comfortable texting, as she feels she will be misinterpreted. Only wants to meet in person and would love to do anything to repair our relationship, apparently, except being decent in person. 🤔
Is this just setting a boundary or is this control? I feel over a barrel and almost further intimidated, but maybe the issue is me not respecting what she’s comfortable with. Posted on another board but didn’t get many replies. Hoping for more here from people who have dealt with this kinda thing!