It's fairly common knowledge in my work place that my relationship of 15 years ended due to infidelity.
Last week I had a conversation with a colleague, whom divulged to me that they are contemplating/hoping for (what I assume to be an already emotional affair after some flirting) to pursue a relationship outside of their long term relationship. Children are involved.
I found the conversation triggering and also fascinating. Since suffering betrayal I have always asked 'why?'. They didn't answer why but what I found most triggering and most fascinating I advised to consider what would happen when it inevitably came to light. From the betrayed partner, I was crushed. My children were crushed. It was devastating as a mother and as a woman. I went into a deep monologue about the damage this could cause and all of the potential repercussions.
I was met with 'it is what it is'.
I'm dumbfounded. I'm also questioning whether that was the amount of consideration my ex gave to our relationship and our family. 5 worlds. That amount of consideration. I've always assumed he was or must have been wracked with guilt. Not knowing what way to turn. Falling in love with another, not wanting to leave either nest.
But no...am I to believe 'it is what it is' is the total amount of consideration we received was?