Was I in the wrong?

[2ManyVodkas]

I will try and keep this brief. Been married 9 years, have 2 young DCs. DH is a nice enough bloke 70% of the time, 30% he 'is' or 'can be' quite aggressive towards me and the DC's, I mean verbally aggressive.

We have been arguing on and off for months and today in the heat of an argument, I told him "he does'nt know how to turn a woman on" and if he ever met anyone else she would'nt stick with him for long.

I know it was a nasty thing to say, but he is so nasty most of the time- I really think we bring the worst out in each other and I have no idea why??? I would rather be single 90% of the time and that's not good is it?? .

I think what you said was right on the money TBH.

What sort of woman would be turned on by someone who's verbally aggressive to them and their children for just under a third of the time. Being turned on isn't (just) about physical foreplay but about feeling safe and respected in the first place.

Considering your comment about no-one wanting to stick with him, are you starting to consider splitting up ?

I am considering it but I am not in a position (atm) to support my young DC's - every day is getting harder and blardy harder.

He tried to shag me this morning and this is how it went.

me - sleeping
him - grope me and say "fancy a shag"
me - no
him- why??
me- you talk to me like shit in front of kids THEN expect sex in the morning .
him - starts shouting nasty stuff

I really want to leave.

Not surprised you want to leave. Get in touch with Women's Aid and find out what your options actually are (this doesn;t mean you have to pack your bags right away but knowledge is power: having a clear idea of what to do and how you would manage can make you feel a lot better). Because regular verbal aggression is abuse and you don't have to put up with it.

I know regular verbal aggression is abuse, and this is why I am considering leaving him, but like I mentioned, I am not in a postion to do it (DC;s are only 5 & 2), but i have been thinking for weeks about contacting CAB for advice on financial support, so I just need to pluck up the courage to do it.

Thanks.