Marriages, relationships - can you say I don't love you anymore then realise you were wrong

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just wondering really, by that point is it then too late

Depends. Relationships are not alike any more than people are alike. It's worth talking to the person, I guess (though if their answer to the initial I DOn;t Love You was 'phew, that;s a relief because I don't love you any more either' then you may not be able to do much about it). If this is you who has changed your mind, do ask yourself why and make sure it's not just because your dumped one has found somene else and you haven;t, or because you're bored and hate being single.

well we had communication breakdown followed by arguments, he says that in the last year that we never did anything ie go out alot, didn't have enough sex, I didn't respect him amongst other things (we do have a 2.5yr old) we got stuck in a routine, he has very much closed himself off emotionally and has pretty much thrown himself into work, isn't really calm and blows up when I have tried talking to him. He walked out on his first marriage (no kids) when things got tough and the relate counsellor has said that he does have some issues. I've stopped trying to talk to him.

he is going to go soon alone, was my session initially, he only gets irate if i try to talk to him about things (he has already filed for divorce, well papers ready) and now i've stopped contacting him (he is at his mums) what hurts is that he has come back and slept with me which doesn't really show me any respect at all.

I was really surprised he even agreed to go because he's adamant its over and had been dead set against relate so not sure what he thinks he will benefit from it as his decision is made.