Anyone else happier since DH left for the OW?

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Just that really.

When ExH left for the OW I was devastated. I had three DC (ranging from 14wks to 6yo). I never thought I could cope on my own.

But since then, life has got so much better, I’m no longer pretending to be asleep - when ExH came home drunk I didn’t know whether he wanted to f* me or fight me, so it was safer to pretend to be asleep.

Am now engaged to an amazing man and I can’t help feeling that my ExH and the OW did me a ‘huge favour’.

There are so many threads here by women going through hell because their DP/DH has cheated and left.

Would love to share stories of how we’ve not only coped but are happier now we’ve ditched the cheater.

Yes!
Divorced last year, he’s buying a house with OW and I’ve bought a flat, got a promotion, lost weight and for the first time, I’m excited for my future.
I no longer have to fit my life around someone else’s and it’s the best feeling!

That’s great Maze!

Thanks for sharing. That's really positive. Can I ask how long did it take you to feel like everything was going to be OK.

I'm in similar position- couple of months in and still feel like I'm never going to feel normal or happy again.

I'm so glad stbexh has another woman. He shagged around a lot in our marriage. He told me that with glee recently.

But I am bricking it about finances. I was a sahm and feel I am trained and ready for nothing in terms of work.

I mean I am so glad he has another woman because I loathe him and it means he less likely to come round here again.

Sorry you’re going through it at the moment.

It probably took around 6 months to realise that him leaving was a positive thing.

YES!!! Initially I never ever thought I'd get over it, but WOW, it's so liberating! I bloody LOVE it!
Random things like

being able to paint a room whatever colour I want,
keep the kids up late watching TV if I want (without having to worry about him being tired and them being noisy),
sleep overs (yes crazy - but the kids are happy)
pets!
doing activities we want that he'd pull his face at (like simply a bike ride!)

I still have occasional wobbles 3 years later, but they quickly pass once I remember I'm my own boss and how much I like having a huge bed to myself and no over-grown child's clothes to pick up!

It's especially wonderful when it turns out the grass isn't greener for them 🤣

The tears eventually stop, the bitterness turns into pitty and the sadness turns into unimaginable strength 💗

@BlastedPimples He sounds dreadful. Glad you’re shot of him and hope you get the finances sorted soon.

@Alicehatter “The tears eventually stop, the bitterness turns into pitty and the sadness turns into unimaginable strength 💗”

Absolutely this!

Watching with longing