Am I being a mug?

[Dontgiveuponus]

Recently met up with an old flame. We had a brief relationship 2 years ago but it didn't work out for lots of reasons. He's been messaging me for ages asking to meet up so we did. We get on great. Have lots of laughs, never any problem. So we start seeing each other again then all of a sudden he goes quiet. Not answering messages, basically ignoring me. I called him out on it & he said he doesn't think it's going to work, that there's no 'spark'. I'm ok with that. After a few messages back & forth he changes his mind & says he wants to give things a go. I say no, stop messing me about. He then says 'don't give up on us'. Wtf is going on here? There is no 'us'! Every time we get close to anything like a relationship he backs off. I'm so confused! Am I being a mug here?

He’s messing you around, is it really worth it? It doesn’t sound like it’s going to turn into anything long term so I would block and move on. Don’t make him a priority when you’re only an option for him.

He wants attention. He likes the idea of you pinning after him. You let him go far more easily than he expected and it hurt his ego so now he's trying yo reel u back in.

He's a head fucking wanker.

'There is no 'us' you weirdo. Jog on'
Then block once you know he's read it.

Ps: rule of thumb, if it didn't work out with someone in the past. 99.9% of the time it was for good reason. Trust your past self and don't try again

You’re being a mug if you waste any more time on him, OP, but it sounds like you won’t.

You're not being a mug because you're not being pulled in by his rubbish about 'us'.

Block and ignore.

Can always trust mn wisdom to give my head a wobble

He's a head fucking wanker

Is exactly what I needed to be told

Thank you 😊

You said it didn't work the first time...always head forwards, not back.
Great that you called him out on his behaviour. You're worth so much more than this arse.

I've just told him to go fuck himself. He's not impressed but I don't care. Life is too short to waste time on arseholes like him. Lesson well & truly learned. Never go back to someone who wasn't right for you the 1st time

Great stuff, OP. Of course he wouldn’t be impressed - he though he could keep you dangling and call all the shots; so pleased you’ve got rid.

Don't try to work out people who confuse you: stay away from them.

Good on you!

Imagine having the audacity to tell someone there's no spark and still expect them to keep chasing after a relationship with you xD Like, nah mate, you're not a prize.

Hope he leaves you the feck alone now and doesn't go all weirdo stalker.

Good on you! People want what they can't have, and he was probably taken aback by how quick you let go when he rejected you. So now he's chasing again. Don't waste your time. He's just after the chase.

Brilliant!