FWB - am I paranoid?

[BatDinner]

I have a FWB relationship that should work really well - the sex is fantastic.

I feel like I’m trying to police who he otherwise sees? And I have no right to do that. He has a high sex drive - and although he says he’s only sleeping with me, I don’t think that’s true.

I always insist on protection.

Do you think I should end it? How risky is this situation?

It sounds as though you are concerned about your health which is sensible, what we do today can have repercussions in our future health.

You are the one in control of your body and health, you have to think whether this man is worth taking the risk. It is a fact that the more intimate partners we have there will be an incresed risk of those viruses and bateria lying dormant in our systems and triggering off very serious diseases as we age.

It's a fact many young people don't consider, the fewer people you have the less risk there is to health. Some people will spend years trying to eliminate dangers to their health such as with food, alcohol, drugs, keeping physically fit but the potential risk of your own body harbouring a trigger, (the Epstein Barr virus for example,) which could be set off very sinister diseases years later, seems to be not discussed.
Keep partners down to a minimum would be my advice and has been to all my children.

Always go with your gut instinct. I think in your shoes I’d need to stop seeing him, get myself a health check up and then find someone that didn’t give me these anxieties. Whether that be a FWB or new partner. I’m not sure I could enjoy the encounters if I was worried about catching something.

A FWB arrangement is meant to be fun. Your FWB arrangement sounds super stressful.

I'd end things because you're never going to know for sure if he's sleeping with other people, and you're just going to drive yourself crazy expecting him to confess to it.

This is easy. You don't trust this person as far as you could throw him, so end it. It's not just monogamous relationships that need full trust, it's ANY relationship, sexual or not. Move on. If you're as good at not developing feelings as you say, it should be easy