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I think I'm coming to the end of my marriage

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Definitelynotme2022 · 17/02/2023 10:42

Firstly I should point out that this isn't the best time for me to be making life changing decisions, as I lot my mother a few weeks ago.

I've been with dh for 18 years and we have 2 dc together.

It's been a bumpy ride to say the least, but the last few years we'd settled down and seemed to be doing very nicely. But I can't get past two things.....

I don't particularly fancy him meaning that sex isn't always the best, and I've stupidly faked an orgasm on several occasions just to get it over with. If you asked me my physical type, it's not him. And we actually have very little in common in general.

Second issue is that he's just so bloody miserable!! Even the kids (16 & 11) know this and tease him about it. He constantly tuts and huffs, speaks aggressively a lot without even realising it and I find it especially difficult when it's directed at the 11yr old who is autistic. Not that dh recognises that, he still thinks he's lazy and annoying. He doesn't particularly want to go out at weekends, so they can be dire unless I do something off my own back.

On the plus - we live a nice life together. We both earn well, we've recently bought a project house. And family life is extremely important to him, but then he doesn't seem to enjoy it....

I have this feeling that it's going to get to the stage where the kids have left home (which he can't wait for!), and I'm going to have to spend the rest of my life with this grumpy and miserable man.

OP posts:
Thisisnotahotel · 17/02/2023 11:03

God I could have written this as well OP 😭

Definitelynotme2022 · 17/02/2023 11:24

Thisisnotahotel · 17/02/2023 11:03

God I could have written this as well OP 😭

I'm really sorry to hear that, but glad it's not just me if you know what I mean.

OP posts:
Wheredothesocksgo · 17/02/2023 13:50

I hear you!

Please don't rush this though. Losing your mum is a huge, devastating life event. You will be feeling raw and you may not be in the best place to make life altering decisions right this minute. Your grief may not have even hit you yet.

You absolutely can leave if you think you'll be happier.

Can you wait a while, just until you can be sure and you have a plan?

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