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Have you ever been insanely attracted to a man

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Louise4939 · 16/02/2023 21:51

Im a hetrosexual woman who has been in a happy relationship with my husband for over 15 years, we have 4 kids together and I love him to bits! Growing up I never really found many men attractive although I have always been hetro because I aint into women at all but my husband was just so sexy from the second that I looked at him. He was tall, athletic build and had lovely ginger hair although its basically brown now but it was me that actually approached him haha. He was quiet and a bit shy although great personality, We met at a house party and eventually started dating each other. I remember seeing him naked for the first time and he had such a lovely body (still does), muscular but not too muscular, nice arse, nice forearms, lovely chest and pecs as well as wide shoulders, he also had some chest hair but not too much which I found sexy (And a nice thick cock to go with it). I remember when we were both naked together and I just loved looking at him and I still do, has always cared about my pleasure and even though he was basically a virgin when we met (I only had sex with one other man before him) but the sex was briliant! After we had sex I just remember having this feeling that I want his babies and now we have four beautiful kids.

He still looks sexy for is age and still has a great body while my body has changed since giving birth, I feel like im the less attractive one but has told me that he loves my body and I've also never caught him watching porn! He told me that he would of watched it before he met me but never had the urge to since being with me. So when people say that all men in relationships watch porn its not true in my case lol

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Lookingoutside · 16/02/2023 21:53

Yes.

what do you want?

Zerrin13 · 16/02/2023 22:51

Many many times

Ofcourseshecan · 16/02/2023 22:59

Good to hear this, OP! Mine was a bit slower. I fancied DH when we met, and the attraction grew stronger very quickly. Still fancy him after 20-plus years.

ExtraOnions · 16/02/2023 23:08

wonder what “basically a Virgin” means ? Is it like being a “bit pregnant” ?

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Louise4939 · 16/02/2023 23:14

@ExtraOnions well he told me that he only ever kissed a girl once and that was back in school. In fact what am I on about saying "basically" doesnt make any sense really lol

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Opentooffers · 16/02/2023 23:21

Many times, some with fantastic bodies, some less so, but as I'm average in physique ( probably good for my age these days) I don't expect or need perfection.
You struck gold first time, congratulations ( I think that may be what you are after😉).

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Louise4939 · 16/02/2023 23:22

@Ofcourseshecan yes im glad that I met a wonderfull hard working man who is also a great father. Even when I saw him naked first time I just remember feeling his body and getting horny just by looking at him, my Ex before him never cared about his appearance and I dont think I was ever physically attracted to him. I think thats why sex with my Ex wasnt good and he also cheated on me.

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thecatsarecrazy · 16/02/2023 23:26

No, never fancied my husband really and now I definitely don't. I had a brief thing with a guy who is the man of my dreams, black beard, gorgeous face, strong arms, hairy but that's all over now. Stuck In a boring loveless marriage with an overweight bore of a man with a small cock.

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Louise4939 · 16/02/2023 23:35

@Opentooffers when I first met my husband I found it a bit strange that he was into things like skincare and i know some women dont like men who spend too much time in the mirror but I've had people think he is in his 20s even tho he is 41. Doesnt have any wrinkles or grey hairs the lucky bugger (nothing wrong with wrinkles or grey hairs)

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Zanatdy · 17/02/2023 07:31

thecatsarecrazy · 16/02/2023 23:26

No, never fancied my husband really and now I definitely don't. I had a brief thing with a guy who is the man of my dreams, black beard, gorgeous face, strong arms, hairy but that's all over now. Stuck In a boring loveless marriage with an overweight bore of a man with a small cock.

That made me laugh. Sorry I know it’s not really funny. I never fancied my ex, he persued me and wouldn’t give up. I’ve got a boyfriend now that I fancy the pants off and it’s such a difference. I love staring into his gorgeous eyes. Life is short, why stay when you’re clearly unhappy.

Johnisafckface · 17/02/2023 09:23

Yes. My first boyfriend. He is the only guy I ever actually pursued in my life. The first time I laid eyes on him I knew I had to have him. He was gorgeous and sweet and I had no shame in chasing him. 😂 I’ve never felt that way about anyone else I dated.

i never felt that way with my ex. The first time I saw him I was a bit disappointed but hung in there hoping things would get better, but they never did.

EnjoyAGoodHorrorFilm · 18/02/2023 02:15

Yeah this is so cliche but the lad who works at my local swimming baths. Around my age late 20s/early 30s. As soon as I seen him I fancied him & I think he felt the same because he’d always stare over whilst I was in the seating area & find ways to talk to me.

I wish I’d have had more courage to just ask him out but I was secretly willing him too do it. But in a busy swimming centre I didn’t think it was the right time 😅or maybe he didn’t fancy me. But he is the only one I’ve actually clapped eyes on & thought “I really really fancy you!”

You’re very lucky to have your relationship btw. Sounds very loving!

Idolikeabiscuit · 18/02/2023 06:43

EnjoyAGoodHorrorFilm · 18/02/2023 02:15

Yeah this is so cliche but the lad who works at my local swimming baths. Around my age late 20s/early 30s. As soon as I seen him I fancied him & I think he felt the same because he’d always stare over whilst I was in the seating area & find ways to talk to me.

I wish I’d have had more courage to just ask him out but I was secretly willing him too do it. But in a busy swimming centre I didn’t think it was the right time 😅or maybe he didn’t fancy me. But he is the only one I’ve actually clapped eyes on & thought “I really really fancy you!”

You’re very lucky to have your relationship btw. Sounds very loving!

Go and see if he would like a date. He may be nervous too.

Caramelized · 19/02/2023 06:14

I really like a guy in work. He's so good looking. It's mutual and was instant attraction. But I'm stuck in a marriage that I know husband has never really fancied me. He's never said that he likes me physically. He bores me to tears, I'm fed up of trying too hard with him now.

Pinklemons9 · 19/02/2023 08:58

I’m genuinely interested to know why people get married in these situations? Life is too short

TeaCakeandWarmHugs · 19/02/2023 09:17

It must be magical for a man and woman to feel that about each other. I wish I’d had that feeling about my husband (stbx) but it was very obvious he didn’t blow me away.

I remember my grandmother (RIP) talking about my grandfather being sexy throughout their marriage (she said this in her 70’s) and she missed him dreadfully after he died. I was 7 when he died. She still cried after him 20 years after he had gone. They had 5 children together. A true love story and the recipe for a happy marriage.

Rockofages3 · 19/02/2023 10:14

Brilliant to read this, well done, sounds like an excellent catch!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 19/02/2023 15:39

thecatsarecrazy

I love your honesty 😂
I’m single and sometimes I get a bit ‘sad I’m single’ but you inadvertently made me laugh

I do hope not trapped forever ?
i was physically very enamoured with a recent ex but he wasn’t over his divorce and made me anxious 😬

Ohthebanality · 19/02/2023 18:58

Talk about oversharing

Watchkeys · 19/02/2023 20:04

Yes, lots of women very much fancy their partners, including the shape of their cocks. Why do you feel the need to share? It's a lot of information. Shall we talk about why we enjoy taking a dump, too, or is that too personal?

What were you hoping for from the thread?

motherofkevinnotperry · 19/02/2023 21:21

Yes I fancy a lot of men. I have one at the moment that I really do like far too much but it's the idea of them. The reality is usually disappointing. There are still times I look at DH and think he's a bit of ok but the usual daily grind can be distracting.

Newyearnewjobnewlife · 20/02/2023 00:43

Divorcing one of them, having amazing sex with another one, both totally unsuitable for relationships so I’m dating a suitable one I’m not insanely attracted to.

Mom2K · 20/02/2023 03:05

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Frogscottle · 20/02/2023 19:26

Yep. My DP. Fancied him for months before we got together. Properly blew me sideways with the strength of my feelings…and I’m over 40. Never loved anyone like it…not even my exdh of 20 years.