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Pet dog

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Luby34 · 16/02/2023 12:38

So my fella moved in with his dog...a pug. She is cute as a button but my goodness I hate having a dog. She sheds massively, even when we take her to get specially bathed and brushed. My house was spotless before he moved in, now there is dog hair everywhere and my kitchen stinks. I vacuum everyday but still hair...hair on my clothes even after washing them which makes me feel so scruffy (I've used Vamoosh to dissolve hair in the washing machine), hair on the hob, being walking into my living room, hair on my fork when I was eating. It's horrendous. Not just that, but since moving in, my partner has a new job so goes away Monday morning before sunrise and back on Friday after dinner. So I'm the one walking her, feeding her, cleaning her, picking up her poo. I'm pregnant and exhausted. I am quite OCD at home, now she is weeing on my grass, pooing in my garden and im the one having to sort it out. I'm organising her trip to the groomers because she is scooping on my kitchen floor - he didn't organise it. It's gross. I hate it. I love dogs, but this is the reason I didn't have one in the first place because its not fair. What do I do? I don't want to be stressed and pregnant. When baby comes along I don't want it to be crawling on the floor with hair and shedded dog skin. I need clean!

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Honeyroar · 16/02/2023 12:45

Gosh you sound a right pair. Is this a new dog or did you not live together before you got pregnant? You don’t sound very comparable and he sounds like he’s dumped far too much of the care onto you. Your dislike of having the dog is bound to increase once you have your baby. I don’t know what to suggest, other than finding dog care while he’s away. He’s going to have to find a job where he’s around if this has any chance of working. Have you spoken to him about it?

Honeyroar · 16/02/2023 12:46

Compatible not comparable! And sorry to sound harsh. I feel sorry for you, and the dog.

Eastereggsboxedupready · 16/02/2023 12:47

Grim is all I have to say. And I have ddogs. 4. Never put upon anyone to look after them.

gallina · 16/02/2023 12:50

I feel your pain. Don't know what to suggest but the feelings will get worse once the baby is here.

Spottycarousel · 16/02/2023 12:54

Poor dog.

shiningstar2 · 16/02/2023 12:56

The dog shouldn't be your sole responsibility Monday to Friday, especially as the mess is not something you're used to and don't want. Your partner should pay for a daily dog walker, maybe pay for an extra 15 minutes for the dog to be groomed in the garden to reduce the hair in house. I think he should also pay for a once a week thorough house clean to reduce the mess further. If you can't cope with a dog weeing/pooing on your garden outside I'm afraid you both have some serious thinking to do as it looks as though having a dog around is really not for you. If the two of you are committed to the relationship it looks as though the dog will have to be rehomed. Das for your partner and the dog ...and bear in mind that choice, even if agreed upon by your partner, will probably have implications on your long term relationship. I'm. A dog owner, live my dog but wouldn't like a partner having that level of stress about the dog. The only compromise solutions u can think of is doggy day care during the week. Keeps the house and garden cleaner and also gets the dog walked. May not be much more expensive than dog walker plus cleaner. 💐

shiningstar2 · 16/02/2023 12:57

Sorry for typos. 😁

Dozycuntlaters · 16/02/2023 12:58

Did he have the dog when you met him? If he did then surely you knew that if you were going to move forward and start a family together the dog would be part of the equation. You are going to resent the dog massively when the baby arrives so you need to sit down with your partner and sort out what you are going to do. Can he afford to pay a dog walker to come during the week so that at least takes something off you? Picking up poo takes a few seconds so that shouldn't really be an issue but with regards to the shedding, well you can't stop that. You partner really needs to find a job where he is home every day rather than leave it up to you.

I feel for you, but more for the dog. Poor thing.

SquashPenguin · 16/02/2023 12:58

Where else is the dog meant to go to the toilet? I have a pug and they shed a lot, that can’t really be helped. My boy is bathed and brushed regularly but it’s a pug thing.

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Luby34 · 16/02/2023 12:59

It's his dog that he has had for 3 years. She's only 4.5 years old.

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Luby34 · 16/02/2023 13:01

I feel sorry for her too. Initially he said his mum wanted her, but now she doesn't so had to come with us.

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Luby34 · 16/02/2023 13:02

Out when you take her forward walk morning and evening.

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honeyandbutterontoast · 16/02/2023 13:08

Does she need that much walking? I have one and she’s perfectly happy on a half hour stroll and then time bombing around in the garden. I’m guessing it’s a fawn one and they supposedly do shed a lot.

I think maybe you need to talk about rehoming, although they are lovely little dogs around children and toddlers but it might get more needy when there’s a baby in the house.

As dogs go I think they are pretty easy little dogs, but if you aren’t a dog person you just aren’t.

SquashPenguin · 16/02/2023 13:13

honeyandbutterontoast · 16/02/2023 13:08

Does she need that much walking? I have one and she’s perfectly happy on a half hour stroll and then time bombing around in the garden. I’m guessing it’s a fawn one and they supposedly do shed a lot.

I think maybe you need to talk about rehoming, although they are lovely little dogs around children and toddlers but it might get more needy when there’s a baby in the house.

As dogs go I think they are pretty easy little dogs, but if you aren’t a dog person you just aren’t.

I second this, they make such lovely companions. Mine is so happy just to be sat next to me (or on me), although he is black so his fluff notices a bit less and I only wear black which helps 😆

honeyandbutterontoast · 16/02/2023 13:16

@SquashPenguin yes black ones shed so much less, we really don’t have a problem with her fur. It breaks my heart that they are so badly bred because I would have a houseful otherwise.

honeyandbutterontoast · 16/02/2023 13:18

Sorry to have hi jacked OP. But seriously rehoming may be the best thing for your relationship or indeed the only thing you can do if you don’t get on with her. It must be horrible having to deal with it all whilst pregnant when you aren’t a dog person.

Konfetka · 16/02/2023 13:21

Outsourced grooming will never solve a shedding problem.
Try this www.wahl.co.uk/product/pet-sheddy-brush/

MothershipG · 16/02/2023 13:22

Did you know that children who grow up with a dog have a stronger immune system?

But if you don't like the dog enough to cope with her mess & you end up rehoming please do it through the breed organisation or a reputable rescue. Be aware that they are mostly very busy so there may be a wait.

CalistoNoSolo · 16/02/2023 13:23

Poor pug. She's probably shedding more because you're stressing her out and she knows she isn't wanted. I think the kindest thing for her is to be rehomed to a reputable dog rescue. I also think your partner is an arsehole for getting a brachycephalic dog, wanting to dump the dog on his mother when it no longer suited him and then dumping it on his non-doggy girlfriend. Probably a plus for you both, but if you do keep her she won't live much longer anyway.

autienotnaughty · 16/02/2023 13:28

That's tough for you all. You need to have a serious talk with your partner and either-

Find a way to live with dog, as others have said potentially a walker, partner works locally so can manage it more, cleaner etc.

Re home dog

Partner and dog move out.

It is a big thing having a dog there are such a massive part of your life if you don't want it it must be tough.

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Luby34 · 16/02/2023 13:41

She is fawn. So much more hair and double coated.

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honeyandbutterontoast · 16/02/2023 13:44

@CalistoNoSolo a healthy pug will live quite a bit longer!

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Luby34 · 16/02/2023 13:47

If it were a dog that didn't moult it would be fine, but it's everywhere. I've just had to sellotape my hand to pat the hair out of the washing machine before putting my coat in there. 😔

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SprungIsSpringing · 16/02/2023 13:53

It's your partner's dog. Have you spoken to him about how unhappy it makes you and, if so, what doe he suggest?

Figmentof · 16/02/2023 13:54

CalistoNoSolo · 16/02/2023 13:23

Poor pug. She's probably shedding more because you're stressing her out and she knows she isn't wanted. I think the kindest thing for her is to be rehomed to a reputable dog rescue. I also think your partner is an arsehole for getting a brachycephalic dog, wanting to dump the dog on his mother when it no longer suited him and then dumping it on his non-doggy girlfriend. Probably a plus for you both, but if you do keep her she won't live much longer anyway.

Pugs have a very long life expectancy, something between 12-15 years is average. I have two pugs, 5 and 7 and they are perfectly happy and healthy and can breath just fine.

Yes OPs partner is an arse for dumping the pug when it no longer suits. You would have thought they would have had an adult conversation about this before deciding to live together and start a family.

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