Would you speak to him about this?

[littlemissmummyof3]

So my partner and I went through a rough patch last year, we have 3 children and I was pregnant with our third at the time. We weren't intimate for months, he was intimate with me with the two previous pregnancies. Anyway he was always uptight when pregnant with our third and my gut instinct proved correct when I found out he'd been watching live web cams of other women.

He's always been really protective of his phone, I never checked it to find out I just wouldn't let his behaviour slide and eventually he admitted it and told me he wasn't attracted to my body whilst I was pregnant with our third and found it "weird". He promised not to watch anymore live cams and I took time away from him. Anyway recently this behaviour has crept in again, I don't know if I'm overthinking this but I changed our room round yesterday so now I will be sleeping on the opposite side, there's now a plug socket at the head of our bed but on my side and he's got an extension lead to charge his phone so it can be on his side for his "alarm". If he plugged his phone in it would be virtually the same distance to him as it was before I changed the room round only I'm closer to it. I respect everyone's right to privacy ofcourse, but something doesn't feel right. He has to have extension lead to make sure it's just with him, even though I'd never go on it.

This probably sounds so childish but he's been really grumpy with me recently, our sex life was good up until a couple months ago. I also think it's weird because the way our beds were before meant the plug socket was on his side, when I was pregnant I really wanted to sleep on that side and he wouldn't let me and I think that's because of his phone, I wanted that side purely for comfort but so did he😂 now he's fine swapping because he prefers the wall but has to have an extension lead🙄

Sorry for the ramble, just wanted to get some insight

Yes, the protectiveness over his phone is a huge red flag imo. People with nothing to hide would leave it lying around the house.

Bit of a red flag; he’s probably still cheating on you with live cam girls like he did when you were pregnant.

Thank you for your honest replies, I know in my gut it's just so difficult when I've no hard proof. He's so weird about some things and it just feels so off!

From what I can gather he deletes the history as soon as he's done it as last time he did end up showing me the phone himself and all traces had gone even though he'd admitted to it. God knows what else there was, then a few weeks after even though he'd promised he'd let me go on it if I ever asked to, I did ask and he didn't let me. I'm assuming that's when he hadn't deleted his history

Yes given his history. But I like to have a plug socket to charge my phone overnight so I’d do the same and I’ve nothing to hide

If you really want answers I would look on his phone when he's asleep. But what are you going to do when you inevitably find the evidence you're looking for? He didn't listen to you last time, so what will be different?

You don't trust him so you have to ask yourself if that's something you can live with..

He does help around the house (I do have to prompt quite a bit sometimes), other than that he's never really got up in the night to our children. Can count on one hand how many night feeds he's done, and his attitude stinks at the minute. Generally always makes sure his cup's full first, but then can be really great. He's also got most of the money coming in at the minute. Ugh this is shit