Long term relationship

[Cutiepie41]

I’d like to hear from women who are still happily married after many years together.
Husband and I have been together for 23 years but the last 3 have not been good. He’s occasionally verbally abusive and has got physical on a few occasions (hit in the back, a glass of water thrown on me)
I know this behaviour is not ok but it’s like the elephant in the room and I can’t seem to talk to him about it.

At around the same point in, my relationship became like this. It’s over now and we are both with other people. I wasn’t interested in counselling with someone who treated me like that.

There's nothing to fucking talk about. You should have called the police when he assaulted you. There is absolutely no coming back from this, so I suggest you see a solicitor as the very first opportunity.

Hey OP - I can’t offer advice on a relationship as long as yours I’m sorry (I am the same age as your relationship) but I have been with my BF for 6 years.

We’ve gone through hard times and had lots of arguments. Thankfully he’s only been abusive to me once and was really sorry but I was terrified.

I can never imagine leaving him no matter how hard it is or how much we fight so I understand that you are worried about bringing it up.

I think you do need to tell him it is upsetting you otherwise it will only get worse if you keep it to yourself.