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When did you say “I love you”?

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Namechange212 · 15/02/2023 13:05

Just wondering how far into the relationship other people have said “I love you”?

Been official with someone since August who is lovely, and his love language is very much doing things for me and being physically affectionate but he isn’t as good with words.

I know that you can’t really put a time on it but neither of us have said the love word yet, although I think I am there myself. Months ago when we hadn’t long started dating he told me it might take him a while to get to the love point, which he said was down to me being his first relationship after his only long term relationship who he was with for 17 years from the age of 17 (have been split up 3 years now), but that he could see himself getting there with me.

I also haven’t met his parents yet although they know about me and we are also public on social media (but not in an over-bearing way) so I don’t feel like I’ve been hidden or anything. I’ve briefly brought up meeting parents as he also hasn’t met mine yet which he seemed on board with, but he is working full time and coming to the end of his masters which he is also doing and is very demanding and time consuming for him so I haven’t pushed it anymore yet.

Am I worrying too much over nothing and overthinking things? Do I just need to go with the flow? With previous partners I’ve rushed things and it hasn’t worked, and I’m really enjoying the slower pace of this one but I do feel I am now ready for the next level (meeting parents etc).

OP posts:
NewMrsC · 15/02/2023 14:18

It took us 6 months and a massive row to say ILY 😂
If all feels good I wouldn't worry too much but now would be about the time I would expect something; although we're all different. I would meet the parents and then go from there, sounds like you need to have an honest conversation 🙂

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