Been dating my partner for nearly a year. He is great and he used to be affectionate. Recently he has changed, not making the effort. We do try and see each other 2/3 times a week. We do live a 45 mins drive away and work were we live. He has admitted he wouldn’t have matched with me if he realised the distance involved.
Not too sure if it’s relationship settling down or something else or we have had our time. Previously he used to be all over me and we had sex every time we saw each other. I have asked him if he is ok and he says yes, just tired, fed up being overweight and sore from the gym.
last night was weird. It was our first valentines together. We both were not too fussed about presents and going out. I went to his after work were he cooked. He bought me flowers and a card. I forgot his card in my house, he didn’t seem bothered. We ate, had a chat then he played on his phone for an hour ignoring me.
we went to bed early and I started to make a move for sex. He said he was tired and wanted to read for 5 mins. I rolled over to sleep and he read for an hour. Obviously not that tired.
This morning I was arranging when I would see him again. He said was with friends on Saturday but nothing planned otherwise. That’s fine as we need to have time doing own things. I suggested he come to mine Friday as I work later and he has a key. He said no as going to gym and didn’t want to drive 45 mins backwards to mine. I said I could come to his, he said will be knackered after gym. I suggested Sunday to mine, he said will be hungover but I can come to his. I said fine but can’t stay over as need to set off for a 4 hrs drive early for a 4 day away with work (have pets to feed at mine and pick up colleagues). He said don’t bother.
we left it at stalemate. I said he doesn’t make an effort and only stays at mine if he is working close to my area. He says my long work hours make it hard to plan during the week. I asked why he doesn’t want sex as much, he said he is just tired and in pain. He says he loves me and is still attracted to me just an awkward week.
however on Sunday I made his dinner. He joked ( but sounded serious) that I hadn’t made a roast. Joked I didn’t have dual nationality as I didn’t look old that nationality. Joked if we move in together - I am selling my house and may have to move to his temporary - I will be his maid cooking and cleaning. I did reply this it’s the 50s and he would need to pull his weight.
just feel he is not making effort anymore and we may be coming to a natural end. More so since Sunday. Am I overthinking