Lingerie for Valentines Day

OffYouPopNow · 15/02/2023 09:05

just tell him that you’d rather exchange it, although he clearly has no issue with you being curvy and is keen to see you in it so maybe try and embrace your curves?

That said, I think ‘sexy’ lingerie is a hideous gift. The weight of expectations puts me right off tbh.

Allschoolsareartschools · 15/02/2023 09:08

Hmmmm sounds like he's bought it for him rather than you.
However. I'd say just tell him the truth & change it for the next size (if YOU want to).
If you don't like it at all, tell him that too!

Blossomandbee · 15/02/2023 09:11

If you don't like it, feel comfortable in it and it doesn't fit, don't wear it. Tell him. Whether it's a case of it not being your thing or just not your size you need to communicate.

DestinysGrandchild · 15/02/2023 09:12

Tell him how you feel. If you don't want to wear it, don't.

dementedpixie · 15/02/2023 09:14

If it doesn't fit then tell him
Do you want a replacement in a different size or would you prefer something different?

DoomedForLoneliness · 15/02/2023 09:19

Minus the fact that they are too small etc, is underwear something you’d usually like as a gift?

I personally hate these ’wear this for me’ kind og ’gifts’.
Like pp said, this is for him.

forwhatitsworth22 · 15/02/2023 09:19

Honestly I'd wear it, it's going to be comjng off quicker then it was put on, I don't feel comfortable in sexy underwear but when I see my husbands face it's a big confidence builder.

Siameasy · 15/02/2023 11:42

How snug? Mine bought me some a size too small (not v-day) and it was too constricting but some snugness could be worked with and you could use it as an opportunity to practice having a confident demeanour

CalistoNoSolo · 15/02/2023 11:49

You lied about having your period so you wouldn't have to tell your partner the pants he bought you are too small? I'm amazed he doesn't more or less know your cycle, and more amazed you didn't feel you could tell him the truth.

Lying about stuff that doesn't matter isn't the sign of a good relationship. Just tell him it's a bit snug, give him your actual size and let him exchange it.

WidthofaLine · 15/02/2023 13:48

Nice present for himself, which doesn't even fit.

Take them back get something you would prefer, then buy him some boy's pants, aged ten that don't fit him.

CrystalCoco · 15/02/2023 13:50

How about the truth?

"It doesn't fit well and doesn't flatter my body shape, can you exchange it please"

MumOf2workOptions · 15/02/2023 18:23

CrystalCoco · 15/02/2023 13:50

How about the truth?

"It doesn't fit well and doesn't flatter my body shape, can you exchange it please"

Excellent advice here

Purpleberet · 15/02/2023 20:36

If you’re happy to receive underwear as a gift, just tell him it’s a bit small, and if it’s not really your style then also tell them that you don’t feel sexy in it. Suggest to go shopping together and exchange for something else

anotherscroller · 15/02/2023 20:38

I think it’s so sexy to be bought underwear. Just tell him how you’re keen on the idea but this particular one isn’t quite right and needs to be exchanged.

category12 · 15/02/2023 20:42

CrystalCoco · 15/02/2023 13:50

How about the truth?

"It doesn't fit well and doesn't flatter my body shape, can you exchange it please"

This.

Or "Sorry, you got me the wrong size - I take a _ in bra and am a size _ if you want to exchange them."

He knows what you look like, he is not going to be put off by it. He must like your body to want to see you in sexy undies.

category12 · 15/02/2023 20:42

Oops, dunno what went on with my formatting there.

Provenza · 15/02/2023 22:34

I don’t understand the assumption in this thread that if a man buys lingerie as a gift it’s for selfish reasons only.
My partner is not that bothered about sexy underwear but he knows I like it. So he buys it because he knows I’ll enjoy wearing it.

Hawkins003 · 15/02/2023 22:35

savethatkitty · 15/02/2023 08:52

Husband purchased some sexy lingerie for valentines day (not your ordinary bra & knickers set). I tried it on in private, it's a bit snug & I already being on the curvy side have zero confidence to wear it! I don't feel comfortable in it. What should I do? He's expecting to see me in, I've already fibbed & said it was that time of the month..

I'm presuming your dh loves you for you, and I can understand your points, I guess try it and fake the confidence ?

Tuilpmouse · 17/02/2023 08:13

savethatkitty · 15/02/2023 08:52

Husband purchased some sexy lingerie for valentines day (not your ordinary bra & knickers set). I tried it on in private, it's a bit snug & I already being on the curvy side have zero confidence to wear it! I don't feel comfortable in it. What should I do? He's expecting to see me in, I've already fibbed & said it was that time of the month..

It's sad that you don't have the confidence to wear it when your DH has specifically bought it presumably because he finds the thought of you in it a big turn on. Think of it like that and maybe that will help your confidence!

And for posters who say "he bought it for himself", they clearly don't have relationships where each one wants to please the other by doing things they like or are a turn on.... which is a miserable state of affairs for a relationship.

If someone bought something for me that turns them on, then it would turn me on to wear it for them knowing their desire to see me in it.... I can see why so many people's sex lives go stale when this mean-spirited "he only did it for himself" attitude prevails.

DuringDuran · 17/02/2023 09:02

A few options:

you hate lingerie, not interested in that sort of thing.

"This is not me, you bought it for you. I won't wear it"

you are intrigued but not the right size.

" I'm happy to wear it but could you exchange it for this size?"

turn into an opportunity for a fun trip out.

"I'd love to find the right size, let's go together to the shop and shop together for my size".

Watchkeys · 17/02/2023 09:31

What would he say if you told him what you've told us? What response would you expect?