Please advise me on my situation

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So my foreign partner has been away for 3 months and his communication in the uk was better than it is over there. We talk on Snapchat but I always noticed he was always on what's app and ignoring me on Snapchat for hours. This was upsetting me so we fell out a few times and then I could see that he specifically hidden me from seeing his online status because he forgot I had two phones and I could see his online status on my other phone.
So I told him I was upset he had hidden me and he completely denied it and was very convincing and started calling me crazy.
We split up over this and he yesterday still completely denied it.
For me this is really hurtful . I understand the reasons why he had hidden me however he still denies it and I feel awful I still love him and he's now just making no effort to speak to me.
I just wonder if my behaviour is normal ? Does anyone understand my situation and would anybody be the same as me ? Considering he has been away for months and he says he's always busy but is constantly on what's app 😞

Don't stay with a man who gaslights you and calls you crazy.

Also Snapchat? Is he 16?

If he's not speaking to you then consider it over and look for a man who doesn't play childish games.

Just block him, and do some searching to see what you can learn from this.
he’s not a good partner, and there are also things you can learn, so this kind of thing doesn’t happen again.

Don’t be with someone you need to keep tabs on - don’t be with someone who has you feeling this desperate.
It’s not WRONG, what you did, checking up and such, but you shouldn’t need to in the first place.

I wish you healing

This is not a relationship that is heading anywhere good. Move on

Snapchat??? How old are you both?

He's clearly entertaining someone else I'm sorry to say. You're not crazy, but his gaslighting and constant ignoring you has made you ACT a little crazy. Please stop checking his online status and move on. You may love him, but his feelings are not reciprocated.

If a man wants to talk to you, believe me he WILL.

As others have said, this isn’t a healthy relationship. He clearly isn’t that bothered by maintaining the relationship, if he was he would have kept in touch more frequently and through a better channel than snap chat.

people show you who they are by their actions. He’s showing who he is and how much value (or lack of) he places on your relationship.

move on.

It's not healthy stalking someone's online status constantly, move on you sound very young.

Wanting to be in touch with someone when you're in a long distance situation sounds normal! Him hiding his activity from you wasn't a mature or respectful way to respond to you, it is very understandable you were upset by this.

Him denying it and calling your crazy is a really good indicator he would rather make you feel worse, and make you feel crazy than look at his own actions.

He is missing several skills required for a healthy relationship - caring about your feelings, being able to listen to you, being willing to look at his own behaviour, being able to apologise, being able to adapt his behaviour to help you feel secure and safe and being able to communicate about this.

Sorry this is hard but he may not capable of a healthy relationship and you would be better off away from him.