My shy quiet teen has only had 1 "serious" boyfriend so far which ended a couple of months ago. She was heartbroken, not understanding why but he had been mucking her about for a few months. Cancelling things last minute, standing her up and going in sulks if she said anything. During it, I said that she was being disrespected and was worth so much more but she didn't want to hear that.
After it ended, We spent time talking about had been good and not so good about their relationship. She realised a few things and decided she wouldn't be treated like that again.
She was recently asked out by a young man, a friend of a friend. They have had a couple of dates and he seemed keen. A bit of love bombing and over promising their future. She's been v measured about it.
They were due to go out today and he said it was going to be the most amazing day. She had been so excited but for a week, he's been evasive about confirming plans, where to go, what time to meet etc. He wasn't getting back to messages and she was getting annoyed.
She messaged him last night and said it wasn't happening and she wasn't interested any longer. If he couldn't respond to her or confirm plans, then he was disrespecting her. She told him it was over.
He said he hadn't sorted anything but if she was going to make an issue of it, he would try and book somewhere and then said he could only find somewhere that she couldn't eat at (she's coeliac which she had explained to him and he knew what it meant)
She told him to rock on, it was defiently over. She then blocked him on everything.
It may not seem like much, but I am proud of her. For a girl who often puts herself down, hasn't stood up for herself and who would previously let herself be treated awfully, she's taken a stand.
She's got ready, looked stunning and headed out with 2 pals instead. She's taken his gift to be refunded and is using that money to treat them.