I am always getting cheated on

[Strive4suce55]

I am 24 and in all my relationships I have been betrayed. My most recent relationship he cheated with his work colleague about 4 months ago and since then he has been constantly begging to get back with me.. I know deep down I will never trust him and I know I don’t want to be with a man that’s cheated but my loneliness lowers my standards and I just ask him to come over.. last night I went on his phone into his deleted messages and I found him messaging an escort for the price of him to get a bj and for some clear pictures of herself. He then said he messaged her for a joke and that he met up with friends that day and they told him about her and he wanted to see if he knew her.. I have since then told him I know he’s lying and blocked him and I will never contact him again.

can someone please help me to get my self esteem and self worth back. Or just how to heal from all these failed relationships. Please do not be mean I know I need help and I’m now seeking it because I know I deserve so much better.

Sorry that you are feeling so down OP! You sound like you've dealt with it just right now, blocking him and stopping contact. The other time was just a blip.
When I was your age I'd had just one relationship - and I stayed in it. Honestly, looking back, I wish I'd had a bit of trial and error before that, so that I could have seen the flaws in that guy and binned him off earlier. You've had loads of useful practice at spotting dickheads - may it serve you well!

If you feel like you've made some poor choices, first make sure you're not just blaming yourself for other people's bad behaviour, bearing in mind that people do tend to cheat/do stupid things more in their early years, when things don't feel as serious or when they are simply still immature.

And if you can rule that out, and/or still feel like it's your fault somehow, I'd strongly recommend a bit of therapy - did it myself much later and, again, am sorry I didn't do it at your age.

Only you can get your self esteem back and all it takes is to be form and keep your boundaries in place. Don't let him back, don't un block him, the longer you do this the higher your self worth will be. You can do it. Cheating is never about you but the cheater.