How would you feel in my position? And what would you do ?

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How would you feel if your boyfriend was constantly on what's app and takes hours to reply to you? What would you think? Would you say that's a red flag or is it unhealthy for me to be bothered by this ? Honest opinions please I need help

Depends what his job is, if he’s using it for work (self employed or something and not a work phone) then fair enough, but if you can see he’s online and not replying then it’s just rude and I’d be wondering who/what is more important

Just ring him if you need a quick answer. Try to stop looking otherwise and just get on with your day.

I'd think I wasn't a priority for him but it would also depend on what the messages were I was sending him. Are they just chitchat or are they thinks that require an answer? Does the answer need some actual thought before he respond? Does he not have a job if he can spend all his time on WhatsApp?

In the interim, I recommend you change your settings so you can't see when he was last online etc so you stop obsessing about it.

He's not into you. Trust his actions.

For you to see he's always on WhatsApp, you must be on there as much as him. How do you know he isn't feeling the same way about you?

It entirely depends what the last message you sent was. Was it time-bound, requiring a response within a certain time frame? If so, rude of him not to do so.

If not, then I’d imagine he’s just not a particularly texty person and is spacing out his responses in an attempt to avoid a lengthy game of message badminton where he responds to your message and then you almost immediately send him another one which you expect him to respond to and so on and so forth. Otherwise, where does it end? Somebody has to be the one to leave a message unanswered for a few hours, or you’d be doing nothing all day but messaging each other to and fro.

My bf takes ages to reply to what’s app’s, but that’s just him. I knew he was like this before we dated as I used to work with him and he was the same with email / work instant messages. I am quite a big texter so it’s quite a change for me, but I’ve got used to it. When we are together he always gives me his full attention, he’s just not much of a texter. I stopped going on what’s app to see when he was last online as it didn’t achieve anything. I just wait for him to message me now as he’s busy with his young kids.

Well, I sent my DH a Happy Valentines message today at 10am, and he's seen it and not replied. However, he's a Police Officer, so I know it's not easy replying to messages. Context is everything, I think!!