What the hell…

[Sasha456]

My husband has left the family home after a protracted affair and historical cheating dating back years. I have only recently discovered the historic cheating and I am heartbroken. Keeping things running at home because of the children but yes, truly broken.
I haven’t spoken with my husband bar practicalities with the children. He has lied so much ending with emotional abuse of me - gaslighting that the affair with colleague had stopped. Breaking things in the home in rage etc.
Anyway - I am in counselling.
Today, I receive a large bouquet of flowers with a cryptic card stating forget that loser. After much digging with friends, I find it was my husband who sent it.
I just feel so played with and can’t understand his motivations at all. 😔

Your marriage ending is the best thing that's ever happened to you. It may not feel like it right now, but it is.

Grey rock when dealing with narcs. No game-playing back - ignore those posts. You are extracting yourself from a toxic situation and drama begets drama. So all you can do is grey rock, Watch Dr Ramani on that - youtube. Good luck 💪

Who cares why he did it? He's a cunt and you're well rid.

A sincere thanks everyone. My DC and I are experiencing huge heartbreak at the moment and my husband is quite literally playing kind games. I haven’t responded and I thank you for holding me up on that one. I have however told all my friends and family and watched their reactions of disgust. I have swallowed his mind games and abuse for fifteen years and I can’t do it anymore. 😔

Sorry just realised the inappropriateness of the emoji. Just wanted to say I am thinking of you and DC.

I can I understand how you feel op.

A few years ago I slept with someone and made it very clear that that was it. It was a mistake. Should never have happened. They stalked me for months. I was too frightened to say anything because they were in a higher position at work.

They did the same and sent anonymous flowers.
but then ridiculed me for thinking they were from someone else. I didn't know who they were from and I didn't say who I thought they were from as I had no idea. But because I didn't assume the flowers were from the , Because I just that I didn't know or expect them. Cue loads of messages saying who else would get you them your so big headed etc etc.

It's a play to make you feel shit. And doubt yourself.