NC with exH reasonable?

[yukkamumma]

I think I might kill him if I see him again.

Just went to pick up a bike he ordered on my behalf for dd2 birthday.

Not only did he order, build and show her it before her birthday, which I was fuming enough about, I just went to pick it up and he's clearly given her it and she's been riding it!! WtF? 🤯

He's withheld the money from CM, this isn't a joint gift, it's all from me.

I can't speak to this man, dd1 doesn't see him because he's been abusive to her. Dd2 thinks the sun shines out his arse as he does stuff like this to keep her on side. I know I'm supposed to coparent and be mature but I really cannot stand any communication with this absolute arsehole! Do people manage to coparent no contact?

But it is not your money. It is your daughter's money that he pays to you.

No it's not. It's money to go towards the housing, raising, feeding and welfare of the children.

I would still have bought the bike, with my money so it's just shuffling money around. What I'm annoyed about is he used the fact he pays me cm to go ahead and buy the bike and give her it, and take all the pleasure away from her actual birthday, take the pleasure away from me of giving it to her and generally make himself look amazing. I'll still be feeding, housing and taxiing her this month regardless. It wasn't his gift to give and it was a manipulative, controlling move on his part.