Unhappy with DP's drinking after a year. Is there any coming back?

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DP and I have been together for a year. I'm 31 so conscious that time is not on my side. We are so well suited in so many ways and my family and friends really like him.

He's just such a big drinker and I hate it. Yesterday he started drinking at 1pm because we were due to meet friends at the pub at 2

I used to think that it doesn't affect him but it does. There's stages to it. Last weekend he had 6 beers on the one night and couldn't even follow the plot of the film we were watching by the sixth.

I brought it up before with him and he reined it in, but I don't want to have this argument every six months for the rest of my life.

I would not waste any more of your time with him. If you meant more to him than the booze he'd have reined it in last time you spoke about it. This level of drinking would be problematic even for someone who drinks more than you.

There are lots of threads on here about living with (and leaving) a heavy drinking/alcohol abusing partner, just in case you want a glimpse of what the future holds should you decide to stay with him.

I think you know this is not right for you

I would not be able to stay myself.

Seconded. Sadly, speaking from experience too, run.

If the pre drinking made you feel sick, believe me, it gets a whole lot worse that will pale anything you could actually conjour up in your own head into comparison.

Trust your feelings and go live your life on your terms.

He may not be a full blown alcoholic but he’s definitely using it. so any stressful situations it will be his go to. Ttc, pregnancy, kids and responsibility are all stressful. Is he the type of man to step up or get pissed when things get difficult?

I left my long-term partner when I was 32. I’m now in my late forties with a lovely husband and two children. You are not too old!

Depends if he’s willing to listen and make changes. If not then leave. My now DH was a heavy drinker bordering on psychologically dependent. It was masking a multitude of MH issues - he got help and doesn’t drink during the week at all now and moderately if we go out at the weekend on occasion. But he was ready to change.