All alone....

[hereforhelpp]

My partner hasnt been supportive or caring at all like i hoped when ive opened up about an addiction . I wish i had never said a thing and feel more ashamed than ever . Im on the cycle of stopping and starting with it and no one is more frustrated about its hold over me than me. Should a partner be labbelling you a 'joke 'if you confess something so huge to them? who else rather than the professionalls already involved do you seem support from? Im broken

I'm so sorry that you have got this reaction. No it's not normal or supportive, you have been honest about your struggles and feelings and the response is awful. Don't feel ashamed, you have done the right thing reaching out.
Have you spoke to any friends?

I havent spoke to anyone else, i darent tell anyone else now! Hes judged me instantly and that hurts. Im so embarrassed about it and now utterly deflated. Its taken me so long to say anything to him and now i wish i could take it back :( i suffer from really bad mental health and for so long this addiction has been my coping mechanism. I need to stop once and for all but it's difficult but i keep on trying .

I'm so dorry that he reacted like that. It would be bad enough if he just wasn't supportive but it sounds like he's been down right cruel.

Maybe take this as a silver lining that ge has showed you his true colours.

Keeping someone like that around will only delay your recovery. I'd suggest giving him the elbow.

Well done on addmiting you have a problem and seeking help for it 👏 you can do this op. We believe in you!

Thank you for answering. Everyday is a struggle mow without the addiction thrown in to boot.... he knows this but will sit back and watch me keep struggling. I feel i might as well be alone if i feel like it already , cant see there would be much difference tbh. I would still have my issues but not be made to feel like this about them. Hes even told me not to speak to him because i am such a joke

I'm so sorry @hereforhelpp

I'd suggest that being alone would me very much better than being with someone who treats you so badly.

So don't talk to him again. It's not like talking to him helps you at all. In fact it sounds like it makes you worse.

So now you can remove him from dragging you down further concentrate on over coming your addiction.

Have you got a plan for today?
A plan for the rest of the week?
Rest of Feb?

Take it one step at a time.

What can you do today to help towards overcoming your addiction? Do that instead of thinking about your ex. Think of him as an ex from now on it will be easier.

Do you need to throw anything away to avoid temptation?
Do you need a new box set for distraction?
Do you need a packet of biscuits in to have a treat?

You can do this without him, sounds like it might be easier without him, don't tell him anything else.

If he contacts you say "yes I'm a joke but I am going to work on changing that but can't do it with you dragging me down. So I wish you well but we are over"

@frozendaisy i have binned the temptation. I have decided ill treat myself to some chocolate when the cravings hit and just try ride them out. And keep myself busy. I presumed he would help me with that bit but obviously not. Im not giving him anymore ammunition to call me names. I dont want pity i just expected support, i feel silly for even expecting support! It took me so long to get the courage up to speak out and its just something to throw in my face. Im so embarrassed i wish i hadnt said anything. I dont even know why im
surprised tbh, everytime
ive needed him
hes just ignored me and let me struggle on . Hes half the reason I've become so low that ive self medicated but he will never account for that. Hes already said its not his fault. Ive never told him it was.....i know ive gone the wrong way about things. But i don't need lecturing and called names. Im even believing what hes said i am!