Married 5 years - Husband wants to be a vicar

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Married for 5 years and my husband since we got married has become more involved with our local church. He recently took a new job at the city church too and has just told me he wants to go into training to become a vicar. We have a 2 year old and I feel that I don’t share the same passion of God that he does. I’ve told him how I feel already consumed by church and this will only become greater once he is a vicar. I don’t want our child to move schools and where we live and I feel that this is an enormous commitment for the whole family.
Are there any vicars wife’s out there who I could talk to about this? Am I being unreasonable or am I right to say my reservations about this?

Not a vicar's wife but I know lots of them.
If anyone tells you have an extra responsibility to the church because of your husband ignore them! Lots of them have their own careers and busy lives and don't go to church every week. No-one would expect a male partner to be running round doing the flowering arrangement.
However they do tend to be interested in Christianity and churches - I think it would be difficult if you weren't but not impossible
It is not something to be taken lightly though - it does have a big impact on your life and your family's. Although there are lots of good things too.
If your husband is pursuing this without considering you - make sure you talk to the church. It's quite a tough selection process and whether your family is on board is definitely taken into account. I would keep your house rented out. Lots of vicars struggle to buy a home after they retire after years of living in manses etc. It's also good to have connections to a particular area.
I would also make sure you earn your own money and put the money you would spend on a mortgage into a savings account so you have a nest egg for when you are older.

Unless I was absolutely and totally committed to Jesus, church and trailing behind my husband it would be a firm no.

I reckon it's a hard life if you chose it but it feels massively unfair to move the goalposts for everyone.
If he was committed to doing this I'd leave him.
I'd also leave someone wanting to join the forces, police and many other jobs too. It's not what you signed up for.

A wise priest once told me that we have many callings in life and that they may include being a spouse and parent. DH and I went through the discernment process together (me, DH is an atheist) and it wasn’t going to work for our family. FWIW I know a few clergy spouses that are atheists so there’s no pressure to be “a vicars wife”. Different people do things differently.

We never saw our last vicar's wife in church and he came to the priesthood later in life. Wasn't a problem at all, she had her own life and that was that.

I read another thread on here in the last few weeks from a vicar's wife talking about how she was finding the expectations of the parish on her incredibly hard (almost impossible!) alongside her full-time job teaching and being a Mum. Hopefully you can find that thread as might have some helpful information for you.

I’m married to a vicar and also ordained myself (not a vicar though). Ideally it does need to be something you agree to and sign up for. It’s a very all encompassing life and will inevitably impact your career, marriage, children and wider family.
I do know people who make it work when one is ordained and the other doesn’t believe or has very limited involvement in church. It’s not to say it’s impossible but it’s always going to be a stretch and a strain on both of you. Divorce rates (ironically) are high.
Please ask him to take some time for you to think this through together. It’s really not like any other job.

Both my previous Vicars had Wives who attended a different Church so that they could just be members of the congregation and not "the vicar's wife".
I mean, they came to my church occasionally, and we knew who they were, but no one (except a few of the older members) expected them to be involved unless they wanted to be.