TLDR - matched with a guy in 2021 wanting a hook up. It didn’t happen and he kept messaging for ages, despite me not replying and saying I wasn’t interested. Although in part I feel my fault as I did lead him on for a bit. Eventually I blocked him on WhatsApp but he messaged on iMessage yesterday. Now blocked on everything!
I know I could have dealt with this better but surely this is odd behaviour. The backstory is I matched with a guy on Tinder in April 2021. We were both Scottish living in the South of England so I guess that was our connection. I was moving to Scotland that summer so I was only interested in hooking up. Just generic flirty banter, some sexy chat. He used to send dick pics randomly? and it would be so weird because I just wouldn’t acknowledge them but he kept doing it. Eventually I asked outright to stop sending dick pics and he said ok. I never sent any pics.
We ended up not being able to meet and when that was apparent I said we could stop messaging but he basically said he wanted to carry on talking. Weird but ok. I had a lot going on in my life and I’m not confrontational so I just kind of went along with it? The chat was fine, not exciting, if he would try to turn it sexual I just wouldn’t reply.
Anyway I moved to Scotland and was dealing with life things. He would incessantly message with Instagram reels, like multiple at a time. And I wasn’t replying or would reply with a “haha” or an emoji and he would keep going. I didn’t have the mental capacity to say “fuck off” but wish I had! He brought up meeting and I would say “no sorry I can’t”. This went on an on, eventually in I think the November 2021 he wanted to meet and I just said “I’m not interested”. He got a bit huffy, backed off but would still message every so often.
Then in February 2022 he messaged just saying “hi how are you?” I replied which was the stupidest thing ever. I was lonely and felt bad for him because he is in the army and was being deployed (to either Poland or Estonia I can’t remember) when Russia invaded Ukraine. Anyway we spoke for a month and it culminated in him sending links to HOLIDAYS for us to go on when he was on leave!! I had an absolute meltdown and told him I was NOT interested and never would be. I should have blocked him then. I can’t remember timings but he would then just message sporadically with random chat or asking to meet. I would say no I’m not interested (I made sure to be super clear) or I just wouldn’t reply and would immediately delete the message thread.
He then sent me quite a crude message basically saying he knew I wasn’t interested but he kept thinking about having sex with me. At that point I blocked him on whatsapp, so November/December 2022. Yesterday he sent me an iMessage saying “hey it’s [name] x”. So now I’ve blocked his actual number.
But what the actual F?? Why is he like this!! I’m some ways I feel bad because he must be lonely? But JFC find another girl on Tinder to talk to, it’s not difficult!! I’m quite tempted to unblock and tell him if he messages again I’ll report for harassment but also I just CBA with it!