Yes it was an affair. I know that makes me horrendous. My husband hasn’t been told directly but I’m sure he knows and has chosen to ignore.
It ended towards middle part of last year.
The last few days I’ve been deleting all screenshots, photos, messages of a very very long friendship that became also became an affair at times for a long time. We transcended both of each others relationships. We weren’t good people. I know.
In the last few years though this man broke me. The control, manipulation and coldness I started to realise. As I started to challenge this there was sexual violence too yet I went back. Part of me still loves the part of him before all that. Thought I was to blame for making him do that. Still struggle to call it what it was.
However to move on I need to clean my phone and photos of any memory of him. I don’t want it to come back to be discovered years in the future. I’ve paid hugely for my errors already. It’s time I got my life back.
This is hard though. I thought I’d delete it all but I just can’t. The silly selfies - they were him. The version I only saw. He’s still in my head and probably will be forever. A lot of who I am now is because of him. The good and the bad.
Google photos isn’t grouping all his images too so not even an easy delete all.