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Pestered for sex

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mummydiaries135 · 11/02/2023 21:47

Don't know where else to turn as it's a sensitive subject. But I had my first baby Feb'22 and currently pregnant again due in May'23.
As I'm sure all relationships do, with a new baby things change and there are new stresses etc. My hubby and I only got into sex again when baby was four months old and I then became pregnant again when he was 6 months old.
As with my first pregnancy my sex drive just disappears when pregnant and I just don't seem to hear the end of it from DH. I'm constantly pestered to 'do something' anything intimate and I just constantly feel guilty that I'm not up for it. Am I right in thinking I can't help my hormones? I appreciate it's hard for DH especially with almost back to back pregnancies but I'm not going to force myself. It's really bringing me down, j do explain to DH how I'm feeling but it just doesn't stop. He's feeling down because he feels I'm not 'into him', with a 1 year old we are run ragged and rarely have time for a kiss or cuddle yet alone anything else anyway. Understandably I want to feel looked after while pregnant not pestered for sex but feel we're both just miserable when it should be a happy time.

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sweetsuzie · 11/02/2023 21:52

He’s being rather inconsiderate considering he knows how babies are made and did not take precautions for baby No 2.

KangarooKenny · 11/02/2023 21:55

I’ve no sympathy for him. Tell him to go for a wank, and to buy some condoms.

sweetsuzie · 11/02/2023 21:57

Just take care of yourself and make it clear you want to get physical after pregnancy and definitely take a break from having more kids so you can get your relationship back

mummydiaries135 · 11/02/2023 22:21

sweetsuzie · 11/02/2023 21:52

He’s being rather inconsiderate considering he knows how babies are made and did not take precautions for baby No 2.

Baby no2 was planned just happened first month of trying. Our relationship is paying the price unfortunately

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sweetsuzie · 11/02/2023 22:26

He is way over dramatising. His urges are going to have to wait.

Ghostbuster2639 · 11/02/2023 23:39

Tell him to pack it the fuck in. Get up and remove yourself from him every single time.

Men who act like desperate schoolboys are not attractive at all. Is he groping you?

UWhatNow · 11/02/2023 23:45

His is a want not a need. If he still has mental space and energy for sex then he’s clearly not pulling his weight enough. Tell him to have a wank and grow up.

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