Hi guys,
been dating a guy for 7 months all going swimmingly other than my concern with his friendship with his ex. he had a five year relationship end just over a year ago. She ended it with him but he says he agreed it was for the best. He says they were living togeather as friends for the last 7/8 months before it ended.
her name used to come up every other time we saw each other in the first few months which led me to ask him if he was over her to which he replied ‘I think so, just as friends’. Around three months in to our relationship he met up 1 and 1 with her which at the time he mentioned the day after. He said they are finally at a place where they can be friends..yet only a week before he had said ‘he thinks he is over her’ which didn’t fill me with confidence and her name was coming up fairly regularly in conversation.
since this occasion he has met with her once a month for drinks. I have aired that it makes me anxious to which he has said he is with me now and I need to trust him to which I agree. We see each other 3/4 times a week and he sees her once a month. He says if it’s not to awkward we should meet at a point in time.
im an anxious person in general but my head is spinning. Does this sound like a healthy friendship or not? To me a need to see each other once a month seems a lot?! Am I over thinking this?
just to add they share no kids etc and moved to this city togeather. He openly says mutual friends find it weird they are able to be friends.
would very much appreciate everyone’s advice :)