I'm writing this whilst feeling very angry so I'm having a rant. I already know what everyone will say but it's not always that easy.
My kids are 9 and 12. Boy and girl. Every weekend I try and do something with them if they want to, they also see friends and we also see family members. A variation of this each week. But its only me that goes with them. My husband stays at home 9 out of 10 times. My parents also have a holiday home in Wales that we can use free of charge. We absolutely love going and try to go most school holidays, at least 5 times a year . again ,only I take them. Husband stays at home. This has been going on for years. At one point i was taking a 6 month old baby and a toddler on holidays myself with no help from him. Myself and the kids have made such wonderful memories and have hundreds of photos to look back on. But there dad is never there. So many people have commented on this .
today we have gone to our local park with the dog and their roller skates. They were begging him to come with us. He refused. What is he doing instead, you ask? Sitting on the sofa watching youtube on tv and playing a game on his phone. Kids asking me for the millionth time, why doesn't he come anywhere with us? I absolutely lost it at him. I put them in the car ,went back in and told him I'm sick of living like this ,I'm disgusted in him. He's putting relaxing and playing a game over the family. If he really needed time out and to relax I wouldn't mind. But he does nothing all the time.
He has an easy job and and since covid works from home. Most days he doesn't have a shower or get dressed.he sits on the sofa with the laptop. He is the laziest person I've ever met.
I have put up with this for so long ,I can't take it anymore. I can't bare to see the kids disappointment anymore.
He does go on the occasional day out with us. For example to alton towers or the zoo. So once or twice a year. Also we may go on a holiday to somewhere once a year. He thinks this is enough and he can check out from the rest of the days !
What is so hard is my daughter idolised him. He will sit and cuddle her and spend time with her that way, they have a close bond. Him and our son do not have a close bond. But my husband is very interested in their lives. When we are at home my husband will interact with them and play a game etc. The problem is going out! He has also never done a school run, and never takes them to any after school activities. I run round doing everything.
It would be easier for me if I was a single parent. But I don't think that helps the kids. What would he be like when he had them ? Would they never leave the house?