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Sexual assault realisation

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Wakemeup12 · 11/02/2023 15:07

I recently started EDMR therapy after struggling to overcome a number of traumatic events - which includes 2 rapes in my past. I’ve always boxed difficult things up and never addressed them so didn’t acknowledge either rape until I watched ‘I may destroy you’ on BBC and had a huge wake up. My husband and I have never had an intimate relationship as I’ve never liked my body or how I look, and a couple of years ago I realised I wasn’t happy and wanted to finally have a ‘real’ relationship - but I realised I don’t fancy him and don’t want him to touch me. I’ve been feeling so guilty but through my EDMR therapy it’s recently taken me back to a situation where my husband was drunk and forced me to have sex with him - around a similar time to the second rape. I don’t know what to do - is this something that can be overcome to keep the kids home together?

OP posts:
Moobae · 12/02/2023 05:20

Not really he contributed to your issues.

MrsBunnyEars · 12/02/2023 06:11

Love, if he has forced you to have sex with him, he has raped you too.

You won’t be able to have a good relationship with him, and your children shouldn’t have to live with a rapist.

Please keep all of your safe by stopping forcing this horrible situation.

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