Hands up who has a ‘friend’

[Brunette72]

Anyone have a FWB? Where did you find them? I’m seriously considering this! Marriage ended a couple of years ago but was sexless for many years. Not sure what I want atm but OLD is soul destroying!

I have before usually one person falls in love so I am personally against this type of arrangement

I was single for 11/12yrs after my relationship with father of my DC broke down. I think for me a FWB wouldn’t be good as I tend to form close bonds quite quickly with people. I know I’d end up hurt. If it was simply sex no strings then great. But I couldn’t do it. I’ve started seeing someone the last 3 months which is great as now having great sex! I was thinking about OLD when an ex colleague asked me out.

Met one on OLD

Surely you just add a bit in your profile on OLD about wanting a fwb and watch them line up.
Most men love the idea of no strings sex so they won't be hard to find.

Oh just having a great number of applicants doesn’t mean they’re not hard to find… and it also doesn’t mean they’re any good in bed.

I have a few "friends". Some are in Poly relationships that are fully open. Works perfectly for me.
one is a long term FWB. We go for nights out occasionally. But meet up when suits us both.
two are Poly so have existing relationships which is fab. The wife's/partners get day to day stuff and I get easy going fun. (Fully open, wife/partner also have other relationships).
A possible date next week for another one too.
I see them very flexibly. So maybe once a month or something. All very mood dependent on both parties.

A couple of things though. I definitely don't want a relationship, so I'm not on OLD other than for FWB. My profile clearly states that. Be careful you aren't just settling for FWB, or hoping it will turn into something more. You'll tie yourself in knots for something that won't happen.
FWB means you can't really be a jealous type of person. They can, and likely Will be seeing other people. For me, I'm very much enjoy. So long as when we're together we're practising safe sex and I've got their undivided attention in that time frame it's fine for me. I've had friends that have tried, and hated FWB because of the aspect of the other person seeing others too.

if you want FWB but exclusive you are just dressing it up differently but want a relationship. Again be careful with this. Because they can simply not turn up one day, you'll have invested yourself into it, and they'll say it "was only FWB".

Good luck, it's not for everyone, but I do enjoy my life as is. It doesn't have to be forever either. I've had friends do FWB, then update all profiles as they are now ready to settle down and look for something else.

I’m like this. I just can’t separate sex from feelings and I have to really feel something for someone. I’d get hurt with a FWB arrangement. I think I’d worry about STI’s a lot too!

Nope, have done in the past when younger but I always always ended up developing feelings so it’s a no for me so much that I haven’t had sex in 6 years! Just go on old most of the men are only looking for causal I wouldn’t put it on your profile because pretty Much 90% of men on old only want sex anyway so don’t really need to put it on your profile but unless you’re friends first most will just want the B part! So may sleep with you a few times then disappear

I have a friend.
We used to work together. We've been seeing each other since November 21.
He's an absolute gentleman, the most sane man I've ever met and I love him.

Via OLD as a PP said. I can separate feelings from sex so quite easily had this arrangement for a couple of years.

I've met a few on OLD who were very explicit at wanting casual.
Most were just not compatible with me, ie we just didn't click or the sex wasn't that great.

My current one, I kept putting off meeting because I couldn't quite believe he'd be interested in me (him being athletic, ridiculously good looking, rather posh, and me being overweight, wrong side of town etc) but we met, had the most amazing sex and we see eachother at least twice a month to bump uglies.

He's incredible in the sack. Easily one of the most giving lovers I've ever had.

There's no chance of a relationship and I'm dating others, he's aware of this. I'm very open with him, and he's open with me. We meet each others sexual needs and are slowly becoming friends. I will be very sad when I do meet someone worthy of my love and enter a relationship, having to end things with FWB so for now I'm really enjoying what we do have.

I have one, he’s actually an ex 🫣

I’m in an exclusive LDR with someone who claims to love me. We are both single and not looking elsewhere. Neither of us are prepared to commit to anything more regular, or move closer so I kind of consider it a Friend situation.

Possibly not what you were thinking of

Aren't you scared of catching something? Men can lie about being clean and some things you can still get with a condom like herpes.

I do, we've been fwb for nearly a year now and met through fab.
Neither of us are seeing anyone else but we're both very clear on where our boundaries are and have always been honest about what we were looking for.
I did wonder if I would develop feelings but so far, it's all been fine. I do think firm boundaries and being honest with myself makes a difference.

Yup. Old friend. Wasn't ready for anything serious. Married him. Coming up to 10 years married actually

Ahhhh ❤️

I've had a few in the past, they weren't friends as such, just lovers. Couldn't be arsed these days.