can’t stop overthinking about little incident

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I know this seems a bit silly but I just need some motherly advice. I struggle lots with anxiety and have been w my dp for several years now. about 7 months ago i was at my friends at a little party and I got way too drunk and ended up absolutely knackered and nearly passing out.

anyway i was told a few days later that I had nearly been falling asleep and leaning on a male friend sat next to me, and that i put my head on his lap when I was falling asleep. apparently it was only for a few seconds. i just feel really shit about it. i feel disgusting and I really hate myself because I never mentioned it to my dp because I didn’t think it was a big deal but over the time it’s all building up to me a lot more :( i feel like he should leave me. I don’t know if it’s my bad mh talking

Dont really know what to do. I feel so sick . I know I sound a little silly but any advice would be brill, thanks lovelys x

Hey, I have an anxiety disorder with OCD.

Google "real event OCD" it'll probably make a lot of sense to you xx

This is me to a T!

It's horrible, OP. You have my sympathies.

Agree to look into anxiety treatment, OCD and would also suggest potentially high-functioning ASD (this is where I'm at right now).

You need strategies to distract your mind when the intrusive thinking kicks in.

There are ways to deal with this, OP. Promise.

Sending hugs.x.

I agree with real life OCD. But even if this event is exactly what happened. It's not a scenario where you should be dumped. In fact in my opinion you didn't do anything wrong at all!
Try to let it go (easier said than done I know!)

Oh mate, you got trashed and fell asleep. It's nothing x

Stop drinking. All of this is just creating more drama. I’m more concerned that you drank so much you were passing out. I don’t know how old you are but this is the sort of shit people do when they are in their late teens/early twenties.

I know i am disappointed in myself for drinking that much. I haven’t drank to that extent since thankfully. I am only mid 20s but I do see what you mean. Thank you I needed to hear that xx

Thank you @overthinkersanonnymus @ironhelp @StaunchMomma i do think i need help with my mh. I’d never heard of real life ocd before but I just checked and it does seem very familiar 😣 . I will check about high functioning asd as well. Thank you lovelies i needed the reassurance xx

You've done nothing wrong. Would you leave him if the roles were reversed?

And most of us have drank too much on the odd occasion as long as it was a one off then it doesn't matter.

You are HUMAN, OP! Please treat yourself the way you'd treat others.

Would you really judge someone for getting drunk?

Anxiety is a bitch, OP. Intrusive thoughts make it so much worse.

You'll feel better once you speak to someone about it.x.

I'm sure you have already told yourself this at some point but just to help make you feel better: this is a complete non-event. Not a big deal. If a friend told you this had happened you would tell her no big deal. Don't worry, and be kinder to yourself today 💐

You did nothing wrong, and there is nothing wrong with you. Nothing happened and no one will remember this non event.

Please forget about it and get on with your life.

I agree with the others that this sounds like anxiety/OCD. I'd not care if my partner did similar and have done many similar things myself.

Please ignore the inevitable judgmental comments about getting drunk-every single time anyone posts about drinking someone who doesn't enjoy a drink themselves says something patronising -yet we all have a vice!

As a person who has binge drank myself though, do work out what caused that level of drunkeness. Only because I drank wine for years and the best thing I did was quitting it and switching to cider as I can never drink enough quick enough to get too drunk unlike wine so never get blackouts or feel unsafe or out of control anymore.

I'm curious why your friend/s told you you had your head on the guy's knee..it may just be innocent cheerful chat but I had a toxic friend who loved to tell everyone everything they'd done the night before no matter how irrelevant it was or how shit they felt as she enjoyed it and this "friend" really added to my own anxiety and low self esteem..yet guess what she encouraged me to drink loads.

Try to get some exercise, eat your favourite food and get some quality sleep! I hope you feel better soon and the anxiety subsides.