Want to end my relationship but there's complications and I don't know what to do.

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As the title says, I want to end my relationship with my boyfriend of 7 years, but I feel there's so many hurdles and I just don't know what to do.
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years, and have lived with him and his parents for the entirety of that time (I'm 26 he's 32), I have never had a good relationship with his mother and he is profoundly aware of this. She is narcissistic, she never liked me, and she interferes in my life. I don't have close friends or family around me. This has hugely impacted my mental health and again, he is profoundly aware.
I feel I have fallen out of love with him. We have a small bedroom in his parents place and that is all, I feel I have nothing to my name, can't go anywhere, do anything. I work 5 days a week and come home, then repeat.
At the end of last year, we had an argument and I explained to him I don't think I love him like I used to. I explained why. I told him I want to leave, get my own place, and maybe keep trying with him to see if my mental health improves he was adamant this couldn't happen and if I left we would have to break up. I told him this was ridiculous. He reacted badly, making an effort to leave to go to drink and his mother got involved and accused me of using him and abusing him.
I never left and I am miserable. I want to leave but have no idea where to start.
We have a holiday booked for this year as well and I just have no desire to be with him that long.
To make matters worse, I think I'm falling for someone else in my life, and I think about them all the time. Have not acted on this and don't want to, but I do.

I genuinely have no one and no idea what to do. I haven't spoken to my family about this in too much detail as I don't want to raise any alarms for my safety.

QQ do you actually have access to your money op? Or has it been going to him 'to save up' for a place for you two. What's his reason for you two not renting a place together?

Your post converns me and it’s worth looking at womens aid to see if there is anything more sinister here

but as a PP said you need to rip plaster off

you find a room in a shared place that feels safe and ok (most are !)

you pay a deposit

you pack your bags

and you leave

have you got a support network of any type

Why might your family be concerned for your safety if you told them the situation, OP?

Hi op i lived thé same situation during 7 years. I was 16 years old when i met him and we had to live with his parents and sistres. One day i left and met un Nice Guy who bécame my husband. We havé a beautiful teenage d s and i m happy. Be brave you can it. Hé ll never livre his mother 😞 💐🥀

Look on spare room

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For rooms in peoples houses
House or flat shared

There's nothing you've said OP that's stopping you from leaving

Some fear of the unknown but nothing practical stopping you

You work five days a week, so you have your own bank account then you have access to money

You've no pets or children.

Your belongings are in one bedroom so won't be much to pack and carry - you could do this bit by bit if you overlap places, or ask a friend to help you when his DM and your bf are out.

You've not said anything about your bf or his DM being threatening in any way, other than his DM doesn't like you she thinks you treat her son badly and your bf would rather break up than not live together anymore at his mum's