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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

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Very unhappy with my husband

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Zamummy · 11/02/2023 00:41

I am currently pregnant and deeply unhappy with my husband. Any advice?

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Daffodilis · 12/02/2023 19:33

You only get one lifetime and it is fleeting, there are no prizes for living it unhappy I'm afraid.

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Zamummy · 12/02/2023 19:37

3487642l · 12/02/2023 19:28

@Zamummy a man who plays things down when you raise your concerns may be doing a form of gaslighting. This can really affect your capacity to trust your own judgement and make decision-making feel very hard. Your confusion and difficulty in thinking clearly about this decision may be a sign that you have been undermined by him, that he is not a healthy person for your to be around. Does any of this feel like it might be the case?

You resumed my situation very well! It's very hard to make a decision

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Zamummy · 12/02/2023 19:38

Daffodilis · 12/02/2023 19:33

You only get one lifetime and it is fleeting, there are no prizes for living it unhappy I'm afraid.

So true. I am someone who loves her freedom

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TeeBee · 12/02/2023 19:39

Then just get shot of him. Other men are available.

Daffodilis · 12/02/2023 19:42

Zamummy · 12/02/2023 19:38

So true. I am someone who loves her freedom

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Trust your own judgement, usually even when there is indecision the real answer is louder in your mind.

3487642l · 13/02/2023 10:19

Zamummy · 12/02/2023 19:37

You resumed my situation very well! It's very hard to make a decision

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In this case being away from him will help you become more clear. You can seek help from Women's Aid, because a partner should help you feel better about yourself, not confused and unsure.

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