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hellobethyname · 08/02/2023 00:03

Was chatting daily to a guy I met on a date site - he seemed keen and we'd been chatting on WhatsApp and by phone daily for around a week and a half

Since Friday last week there's been no reply or contact.y last message is unanswered. It's fine I'm not hugely bothered but what to do now ?
Block ?
Delete ?
Archive ?
Unmatch?

He's clearly had a better offer and I really don't mind but I don't feel inclined to start conversation again if that goes tits up

My last message was a jokey where you gone - better offer type one and no reply .

We had been speaking daily so he's definitely buggered off for a reason. He's not unmatched me in the app but there's been no contact of any sort for 5 days now.

He's never not messaged or rung and I'd suggested a date so I guess he's got cold feet .

It's fine but I dunno what the etiquette is !

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Suprima · 08/02/2023 00:08

This man didn’t want to date you (he would have asked otherwise) and is not worth the angst.

block and delete

Don’t be a penpal next time. It’s very common for OLD blokes to be chatting with women over text and phone calls for weeks at a time and never meeting them. It’s an ego boost, and a thrill to have their phone blowing up.

if a man doesn’t suggest a date pretty
soon after you start chatting, it’s not a goer.

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hellobethyname · 08/02/2023 00:10

Tho g is he did suggest a date but a day I couldn't do because I had a hospital appt - I'd suggested week after . He kept chatting- then nothing.

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LoveMAFS · 08/02/2023 00:11

Your his side option if his preferred option doesn't work out, he'll be back in touch.

Zola1 · 08/02/2023 00:13

Unfortunately dating apps mean lots of people are juggling lots of options. Potential partners become very replaceable. I'd suggest he got further along than pen pals with someone else and is committing his time to that. Don't over think it and definitely don't message again unless he replies

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hellobethyname · 08/02/2023 00:13

Nooooo . Cos I'm not doing that

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hellobethyname · 08/02/2023 00:15

No I haven't messaged again when I didn't get a reply . But I also aren't particularly bothered or happy to be the sub !

So block ? Delete? Unmatch? Or just leave it ? If he gets in touch later I won't be interested .

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