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Attraction

11 replies

Maggiemor · 07/02/2023 22:49

I’ve met someone I really like. I get the feeling he likes me too.
We just click corny as that sounds.
I like his company, get butterflies when I think about him, he makes me feel alive and I want to spend time with him.

I’m in in an unhappy marriage, husband is emotionally abusive, I don’t feel valued and he takes me for granted.
I can’t leave husband yet (complicated) but I want to be with someone who values my company and treats me properly.

OP posts:

Ausse · 07/02/2023 23:20

So…. You want permission to have an affair .

GoldDuster · 07/02/2023 23:26

What's the question?

Emmamoo89 · 07/02/2023 23:27

Don't have an affair.

AnneLovesGilbert · 07/02/2023 23:27

What could possibly go wrong? 🤦‍♀️

arethereanyleftatall · 07/02/2023 23:28

That's called an affair op. However you dress it up. Sort out your complications, divorce, then date other man.

xfan · 07/02/2023 23:40

Work on yourself, it sounds like you constantly need male attention/validation.

boysmum23 · 08/02/2023 09:45

Why can't you leave yet?

CambsAlways · 08/02/2023 09:48

Sounds like you want an affair, sort out a divorce then move on, why can’t you leave

LaffinCow · 08/02/2023 09:57

Are you coming back?

Fuckstix · 08/02/2023 09:58

Nip this in the bud for now. Dont have an affair. It's not dignified for you or fair on him.

What are the complications keeping you in an abusive marriage? It might be helpful to.post about these and MNers might have advice on working them out.

bordhoose · 08/02/2023 10:23

I'd suggest focusing on getting out of your abusive relationship before anything else. Is there anything around that we could help you work through?

Starting an affair isn't ever a great idea, but especially if you're already handling difficult circumstances. It could cause so many extra problems you don't need.

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