Separating - how to do it?

[Lavagirl]

After 15+ years of a relationship and 8 married, my partner and I have decided to separate. There's significant bad feeling there, but I'm hoping we can do this in a civilized way. We have 2 young teen girls and equally own a home. He earns significantly more than me and we both have savings. I've made an appointment to see a solicitor to talk about what my rights are, how we might manage this financially etc, but I'm also feeling extremely anxious about EVERYTHING. Can anyone share their insights/tips about how to manage this in a way that will prioritise the children, help us to adjust our lives and avoid disastrous mistakes?

It is normal to feel anxious, you will have a complete new beginning and leave behind what you have known for 15 years!

I would keep a diary and all paperwork super organised

Try not to get into arguments and talk about stuff when both are calm and have time

Communication as always will be key